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Apparently it's a trend that most men just receive wallets rather than buying them

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[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago

I have two wallets that I use:

  • Big wallet with passport, foreign currency and other things that I need while on the go. Plenty of room for extra papers such as visa printouts, etc. Gift from a former employer.
  • Small wallet with the cards I use every day and some unfiled receipts. Gift from my GF after she heard me whining about how my big wallet was too big for normal everyday use.

So it holds true for me, at least.

[–] iconic_admin@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

I’ve bought every wallet I've ever had.

[–] WolfLink@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago

My last 2 wallets were gifts.

[–] qyron@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 month ago

Always bought my own wallets. And used it to oblivion, now that I think about it. And now that I think about that as well, I really should look into buying another, because the current is threatning to fall apart any moment.

[–] Kyle_The_G@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

I've only ever been gifted wallets lol. Except for the one I actually use which is one of those card clips, I don't use cash.

[–] alcoholicorn@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago

Yes, all of my wallets have been gifts, except my current one which I inherited.

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 2 points 1 month ago

I've never gotten a wallet as a gift and have always had to buy my own. Even when I was a kid with my first wallet.

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Yes, and a new one is on my Christmas wish list. I might have bought one for myself my entire life

First it was my mom, then my ex, now I’m hoping my teens will take it up. This is the transition one: if I get one mud, I don’t need to think about it for another 5-10 years and they’ll be full adults by then

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I dunno, it tends to happen more when people are forced/tricked/want to provide a gift without really knowing what to get.

It's a reliable generic gift because wallets wear out, and there's usually room to switch between several.

It gets less common as you age, but it still happens unless you have the habit of refusing to switch wallets, or have talked about exactly what you want in a wallet and people realize they're better off going a different route.

I'm really particular about my wallets. Right size, right pocket configuration, right materials. I want my wallets the be able to be pulled out and I can find what I need blindfolded because of decades of familiarity. I like a licence window. I want durable materials over pretty materials, when the choice is necessary.

So, I buy my own damn wallets when one is wearing out. Nobody buys me wallets any more because I show the new ones off. Since I'm also known for saying "oh man, that's a nice wallet, that'll be what I use when this one wears out", it kinda makes it a disappointing gift to give, even though I would never say that and it not be true.

[–] Itsamelemmy@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 month ago

I got tired of replacing wallets and just bought a quality saddleback one probably a decade ago. Been through the wash multiple times and still holding up great. Probably last me the rest of my life as long as I don't lose it.

[–] Evotech@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

Haven't had a wallet in years. It's all on the phone now

[–] renzev@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

I bought a wallet online and liked it a lot. I then bought two more of the same model as a gift for my father and a (female) friend. So IDK.

[–] SOB_Van_Owen@lemm.ee 2 points 1 month ago

I never got one as a gift I really wanted to use. Care nothing for style, but look for practicality for me. After much trial and error have found a trifold made of sailcloth to be most lasting and useful for my sloppy wallet needs.

I tend to be particular about my everyday carry equipment and so I think I've killed that kind of gift out of my circle. My current wallet is entering its 12th year of service in surprisingly good condition. A Big Skinny L-shape. I'm not in the habit of carrying all my airman certificates around with me anymore so if I were to replace it I'd just go with their basic nylon bifold.

Seems to be a cool company; when I bought my wallet in early 2013 the price was $26, it's now $30. I think that's slower than inflation.

[–] Default_Defect@midwest.social 2 points 1 month ago

I was taken to the store by my step father and he made me spend my money on a wallet that I no longer had money to put inside of. I have bought all of my wallets myself.

[–] tiredofsametab@fedia.io 2 points 1 month ago

I've definitely gotten more as gifts than I have bought for myself (I'm a guy in his mid-40s).

[–] Bishma@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 month ago

Only when I was a kid.

Wallet preferences don't tend to come up in conversation so I'm not sure how anyone would know what to buy. Plus I get a new wallet maybe every 10 or more years, so it seems like an odd gift.

[–] thanatotus@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago

Yes, my family gifted me my first and second wallet.

[–] GreyShuck@feddit.uk 2 points 1 month ago

Pretty much the way it has gone with me. I don't think that I have ever bought a wallet myself, nor requested one as a present, but nonetheless I have never had a shortage of them.

My current one does what I want it to, and has lasted for probably a decade or so so far. Still going strong too.

[–] Ephera@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago

I don't receive/want many gifts in general, but I'm rather particular about my wallets. My current one is out of cork, has RFID blocking, a coin pocket that folds open wide and a transparent card slot for my public transport ticket. The chance that a gift gets close to that is rather slim, so I'd rather just buy it myself...

[–] HostilePasta@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago

Like most other gifts, it's only acceptable if you put a specific one on a wish list and they bought that one. Who wants a random wallet? That's like buying a random watch, or cologne, or belt. Any accessory should be picked out by the person wearing/using it.

I bought my last one, but this was true for my whole life up until that point. I'll replace it since it's made of leather. I'm hoping to find one I like with RFID blocking next.

[–] revlayle@lemm.ee 1 points 1 month ago

I always buy mine, and I would never ever tell anyone to buy me a wallet. I am pretty picky these days on what I want for a wallet. My wife is the closest person that could go buy me wallet and generally get the right kind, even then she'll run it by me before pulling the trigger on such a purchase, to make sure I would use it

[–] Sabre363@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago

I'm way to special about how the things that go in my pockets physically feel and work for anyone (unless they know me really well, which is like two people lol) to ever get me a gift like a wallet.

[–] TheSlad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago

My dad bought me a wallet from walmart when i was in 8th grade. I still use it im 31 now. I was once gifted an alligator skin wallet that my aunt bought in india while traveling. It fell apart in a matter of weeks.

[–] sorrybookbroke@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago

For me atleast yeah. I've gotten exactly one wallet as a gift and it's the only one I've ever used. 12 years strong

[–] walden 1 points 1 month ago

I use my pocket as a wallet. It's as slim as you can get. The last wallet I had I bought myself. It was a nice two fold leather one.

[–] billwashere@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

Anecdotal I know but I’ve purchased probably 95% of the wallets I’ve owned through the years (I’m old so it’s a lot)

I wouldn't want a random gift of a wallet (with a probable exception of an obscenely expensive high quality leather that's really well hand crafted, maybe.) You don't know me well enough to know what I'd consider an upgrade.

I intend to eventually add a couple pockets to my ereader sleeve so that serves double duty and I don't need a separate wallet. But until then I just want it out of my way.

[–] Furbag@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

I know I bought my last couple of wallets from the same place, usually because I walk past the wallet display stand, see a new one that I fancy, and decide on a whim to buy it. I get good mileage out of them, and they are generally inexpensive so even if I trade in every few years, it's still nice to have a fresh wallet every now and again. I occasionally swap between bifold and trifold as well. One thing I know is I can't do the minimalist design ones, I have too much shit in my wallet that I need just often enough to warrant carrying them around all the time (lest I forget them when I actually need them) but the desire to have the slimmest and most compact shape is definitely strong too. The two forces battle each other in my mind, and I usually settle for larger size in the end for convenience rather than comfort.

I'm not sure if I've ever received a wallet as a gift before. Maybe when i was a kid, and it would have been one of those nylon ones with the zippers for pocket change and the velcro for the money section.

I think my next wallet is going to be a really fancy one. Only thing I'm hesitating on in regard to that is I think cheaper wallet brands actually have the pulse of the everyman when it comes to design, whereas the fancier leather ones are somewhat impractical with fewer card slots, or very tight tolerances for sliding cards or money in them. I have to find just the right one, but I'm in no rush to replace my current wallet.

[–] TonyOstrich@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

Considering I have a very specific and uncommon (within normal people day to day) type of wallet, no I would not agree. I have been using this style of wallet for almost a decade. No idea if I'm representative though.

[–] vrighter@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 1 month ago

i bought mine. The ones I was gifted were too big and I always ended up accumulating a bunch of useless stuff in there. So I bought the smallest one that would fit the essentials. that worked.

[–] tasankovasara@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 month ago

This is likely the case for a lot of items that the common guy wouldn't give a second thought about.

Me? Bought the one before, wife gave me the present one. The third one down the line might have been a gift from my boss. Clearly some truth there.

[–] Coreidan@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

As an adult? Never as a gift

[–] Passerby6497@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

I'm pretty sure I bought my first one or two wallets, but they were low quality. I got a good/name brand wallet as a gift 20 years ago that I'm still using.

[–] uhmbah@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 month ago

I bought small a Herschel Charlie Cardholder Wallet

Its all I need.

[–] Aneb@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

I put my wallet on my Christmas list a decade ago and still have the same wallet, so yes it does get gifted a lot but lots of people buy them

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