Totally agree. The “there is nothing wrong with us” in particular (and similar sentiments) gets under my skin so bad. I’m happy for them that they are privileged enough to feel that way, but there is absolutely something wrong with me. Is that a value judgment? No. It’s a statement of fact. Just like my physical disabilities constitute something being wrong. It has no bearing on my self-worth, I just feel more able to cope when I acknowledge that there is a problem with me that others don’t face.

[–] Badabinski@kbin.earth 2 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Yep. I personally hate debating semantics with people online and have had decent luck in the past by replacing "wrong" with stuff like "it prevents me from being happy" so that people skimming don't latch onto "wrong" out of context and assume it is a value judgement. It appears that didn't work in this thread, however. When I think about it I find the necessity of that replacement to be pretty annoying.

It's frustrating and tiring for me to see how hard it is for people to understand their own privilege. Like, it took me waaaay too long to see my own privilege, and seeing it required a very patient person to lay out parallel life situations where something went well for me and terribly for them. At this point, I don't begrudge people for struggling to understand the multiplicity of human existence (because who the fuck does), but it does drive me bugfuck nuts when that lack of comprehension leads to people saying that living a life like my pre-medicated hellscape is better than the relative stability I have now. Ign

All that besides, thanks for your comments. They've been quite validating and reading them has helped me to feel a bit better about all of this. Hopefully I'll be able to stop perseverating on this thread and get back to my life.

[–] rhombus@sh.itjust.works 2 points 7 hours ago

I try to give leeway when someone isn’t aware of their privilege, it’s really hard to confront. That is until I try to explain my experience and I just get a complete lack of any attempt at understanding.

I’m glad my comments have helped! It was mostly the responses to your comment that got me fired up and involved, so it means a lot to see that I managed to make a little difference. You’ve also been pretty validating and understanding. It’s very refreshing to have someone who understands to vent with. I wish you all the best!