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Maybe not poor at its core, but poor phrasing nonetheless: "just be yourself!"
What we should say is: stop trying to force yourself to fit in. You are enough as you are. Embrace your quirks, passions, and individuality without feeling the need to conform to what others expect. It's not about "just being yourself" in a vacuum; it's about freeing yourself from the pressure to mold into something you're not.
The beauty of authenticity is in the courage to show up as you are, without apology.
All one liner advice is a shortening of a much more complex idea and people rarely pass along the complexity. I think you nailed the goal of the saying, that fitting in shouldn't require losing their individuality.
Sadly some people use the saying to justify being an asshole, because they don't understand that they can be a decent person and still be themselves.
I think "Just be the best version of yourself" is a better phrasing.
Not sure I like the word "just" though. Not as empowering as it could be.
This is pretty good advice, and something I often need to remind myself of. The word "just" weakens what you're saying and is usually superfluous. Delete it.