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What are some poor pieces of advice for life? (kbin.melroy.org)

submitted 3 days ago by NeoToasty@kbin.melroy.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Quitting jobs

Everyone has a job they don't like and whenever someone complains about the job that they do, there's always are going to be handfuls of people saying "QUIT UR JOB!" not really caring about whether it'll benefit the complainer or not.

Quitting a job cold is one of the dumbest things you can do when you do not have any safety nets. No savings. No jobs lined up. Nothing planned. You are putting yourself back to a place of uncertainty and it's not pleasant when that countdown starts. That countdown is tied to how much you have left to cover your expenses fully until you get another job and how long those expenses will pile up.

Because all it takes is one or two missed paychecks to upset your financial stability and the system you've made in how you pay for things.

For some people, unfortunately, quitting jobs is not as simple of an option. People are just jammed into where they are because their job market is poor or it's highly competitive even when they went to college for that job.

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[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 26 points 3 days ago (1 children)

All one liner advice is a shortening of a much more complex idea and people rarely pass along the complexity. I think you nailed the goal of the saying, that fitting in shouldn't require losing their individuality.

Sadly some people use the saying to justify being an asshole, because they don't understand that they can be a decent person and still be themselves.

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 12 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I think "Just be the best version of yourself" is a better phrasing.

[–] pepperprepper@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Not sure I like the word "just" though. Not as empowering as it could be.

[–] Wiz@midwest.social 2 points 2 days ago

This is pretty good advice, and something I often need to remind myself of. The word "just" weakens what you're saying and is usually superfluous. Delete it.