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I've recently begun going through a bit of a personal renaissance regarding my gender, and I realized my numbers-focused brain needs something to quantify gender identity, both for myself and so I can better understand others. I also just don't like socially-constructed labels, at least for myself.

So, using the Kinsey Scale of Sexuality as inspiration, and with input from good friends, I made up my own Gender Identity Scale.

  • Three axes: X, Y, and Z
  • X: Man (not necessarily masculinity), 0 to 6
  • Y: Woman (not necessarily femininity), 0 to 6
  • Z: Fluidity, 0 to 2
  • X and Y axes' numbers go from 0 - not part of my identity to 6 - strongly identify as
  • Z axis's numbers go from 0 - non-fluid to 2 - always changing

Example: The average cis-man is 6,0,0, the average cis-woman is 0,6,0, and a "balanced" nonbinary person might be 3,3,1, or 0,0,0, or 6,6,2..

Personally, I think I'm about a 3,2,1 - I don't have a strong connection to either base gender, but being biologically male, I do identify a bit more as a man. I also feel that I'm somewhat gender-fluid, but not entirely so. I honestly don't fully understand gender fluidity yet, so the Z-axis may require some tweaking.

Does this make sense? Can you use this to accurately quantify your own gender identity? I wanna know!

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[–] such_lettuce7970@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Just want to add you now have a sample size of two - I've read your comments on this post and I feel the same as you. I get so frustrated when people think I've gone through everything I have just so I can perform femininity - hello? I could have been a feminine guy if that's who I was but it wasn't. Sure I wear women's clothes now, but I did a lot before too and I'm too lazy asf to be any kind of fashionista. Every woman (and every man and everyone else too) finds their own place of personal style and comfort. The main impact re: my transition and its relation to aesthetics - for some reason it's now a very bad thing to show my chest in public, because now it's shaped differently. Weird to think about logically. A bra is basically just underwear for nipples.

Anyways, I didn't break out of one box that didn't fit me only to climb into another, is what I'm trying to say.

[–] BumpingFuglies@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I didn’t break out of one box that didn’t fit me only to climb into another

I love this. I'm stealing this.