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Is there a reason why you're not out? Being upset or offended over comments made from those without knowledge of your personal feelings is misplaced. Leaving hints is not actual communication. If you want others to respect your feelings then you have to actually share those feelings. I wish you the best.
I'm not sure if they are accepting or not. There are very mixed signals
i'm sure it can be nerve-wracking, i can sympathise with that. i can see why you'd be nervous.
to any lurkers, this is just another component of why representation is so important-- it signals that it is okay, normal and in no way conditional to our love. if we simply operated from a default perspective that is not heteronormative, then we tacitly tell others that we, individually, have moved on from the era of anti-queer hatred.
i'm not queer so i don't want to impose any uninvited advice, but i really hope that you can find peace with your family and with yourself.
If they always assume that you or everyone they meet are cishet you might not feel safe to come out. It's a chicken and egg situation that can be solved by not always assuming everyone to be cishet
I'm not sure if they are accepting or not. There are very mixed signals