Taking a rest day. Feels like I slept way in because of the time change, but I know it's a fake hour!
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Yeah, the time change always messes me up more than I think it should. I wish we would just stop it altogether.
That we still havenβt is utterly baffling.
Mostly tired, but happy, as there are national elections today where I am at, and by 4pm the total number of voters has already surpassed the total number of voters of the elections in 2022
This is what I love about Lemmy. Youβd get either no answers or ridiculed on reddit for asking this, yet here, you get genuine answers and genuine conversation encouraging others. This is bad ass!
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Iβve had a wonderfully lazy weekend. Just sitting around watching YouTube and playing video games with my wife. ^_^
lazy weekends every once in a while are great. what yall playing?
Still working our way through Baldurβs Gate 3. Iβm basically just following her around, letting her experience the game at her own pace. Sheβs really enjoying it!
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Work has been a pain and got me working basically 7 days a week to get my hours in. If not I wonβt have enough for rent.
I do have a job interview tomorrow which Iβm really hoping I get. Itβll be a lot less stressful and the pay should be better.
Edit:
Just had the first of two interviews. Felt like it went well, just waiting for feedback as to whether or not I am going to the second round.
Edit 2: Not sure if anyone is going to read this but I just got the email to say I didnβt progress to the next round.
Short answer, tired af. Longer answer...
The time change fucked my head up. I didn't sleep well. I just wish the US would stick to this time year round. I know the arguments against it and they're all resolved by either adjusting timezones state by state where it might be needed or adjusting school and business hours to accommodate seasonal changes in daylight hours. You know, like animals do. Because that's what we are: animals. Our timekeeping system is a tool and we can and should adjust it or our habits and schedules to optimize its usefulness. Otherwise, the world clock is an arbitrary, floating standard that we use out of tradition rather than practicality, especially considering how incredibly fucking different the world has become in a relatively short time. Seriously, planes, Einstein's Theory of Relativity, cellophane, and stainless steel all were around before daylight savings was used.
I've been at work for about eleven hours and I'm ready to go home. I have tomorrow off and then I have to work night shift Tuesday night through Friday morning. So I might take a nap at like 6pm tonight for an hour or so, stay up until like 2am, sleep in until I naturally wake (hopefully 9ish but probably closer to 7ish), and then go to bed Tuesday morning at like 4am. That should get my rest in while flipping my sleep schedule.
:) /rant
oh god. That does not sound helthy. Bu I have the same problem, don't want to take sleeping pills so every weekend my sleep cycle gets messed up
It's not healthy, but I do what I can to mitigate the issues. My job schedule is rotating shift work, and it both pays well and nets me 7 days off in a row every 4 weeks. Day shift is just hard for me. As I've gotten older and wiser, I've learned more about my energy levels and now know to just tell myself to go the fuck to bed lol. Sometimes I'm in bed by like 8pm because I just know that I need it like that.
Well, my dad just said he can't be around me because I'm in a dress, but I wanted to dress up nice today so that's what I'm in. Should I leave? It's his house, but it's a family get-together and we're celebrating my grandpa's (his dad's) birthday. Grandpa is seeming to be reaching the end of his life soon...
I don't understand why your dad would be upset about that?
Because he's a bigot, mostly. It's not a good reason
Aww. Am I guessing you are trans, or?
Yeah. I'm sure if you asked him, he'd say he's being "perfectly reasonable." He lets me come to his house and call myself whatever I want (except mom to my daughter, obviously), as long as I don't "dress in a way that betrays my sex," whatever nebulous thing that means. Basically just no being a woman. And of course he'll still use my deadname, misgender me whenever he refers to me, you know how it is.
That's vulgar and I'm sorry. How petty.
Not your problem to please your father with the sight of your body. Maybe look at your face?!
That sounds like something your dad should communicate better about, and maybe talk with a therapist about? I think you should spend time with your grandpa if that's what you want to do. Your dad's discomfort with how you dress is a him problem. You wanted to dress up nice today presumably to help you to feel good about yourself, so don't let him take that from you :)
Thanks. I did end up changing, but only because I had to go home for a minute for other reasons.
He is the king of "sounds like a personal problem," so you're right that it isn't my job to fix how he feels
I already thought it was pretty weird of him when I misunderstood and thought you were saying something akin to "I live in his house so I feel compelled to abide by his weird rules." Now that it's clear that you don't live under his roof, it's extra weird.
I know nothing about your relationship with your dad, so I hope this is just one weird thing on an unusual day. If there's a kind of pattern to him passive aggressively being shitty or toxic to you, I think it'd be a good idea to sit down with him and have a conversation about it. You don't want to stew over a thousand grievances you've bottled up and let slide just to blow up on him and wind up estranged. I think that (if there actually is a pattern and I'm not saying that there is one,) it would be better to address concerns as adults and find a way to make the relationship fair to you. You are not a child anymore, so don't play into unreasonable guilt trips for standing up for your own comfort, respect, and happiness. Again, I truly hope that none of this applies to you, but it's an absolute fact that some parents are toxic assholes who can't come to terms with the fact that their adult children do not exist solely to serve them anymore. It sounds like you probably already know how to stand up for yourself, but I figured it couldn't hurt to throw my two cents in on the off chance that you actually are being manipulated and emotionally abused and didn't realize it.
Have a great rest of your day!
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Angry/sweary rant time for anyone who cares to read it:
I've had a shit week at work (retail). A shoplifter stole something and I got told off for not following the correct protocol. That's okay, I can accept & acknowledge my mistake. But my company are greedy bastards and won't employ a security guard, so I'm expected to confront and even chase people out of the store if I suspect they've stolen something. It's a fucking joke of an expectation, I'm paid minimum wage why should I have to put myself at risk chasing thieves who could be armed with a blade as well as serving customers when there's only 3-4 of us in the store. I can't be everywhere at fucking once.
Stack shit on the walls, flog some shitty data harvesting app and useless additional products to every customer who comes in, watch the front of the store in case anyone steals something, serve customers on the check outs, etc. I don't have 4 arms and eyes on the back of my head.
Fuck my manager too, she's an asshole that has been unfairly targeting me with criticisms, even though I've been doing more than most colleagues in my department. But they don't get any criticism because they're her friends that she sees outside of work.
So done with putting in the effort and getting no thanks for it. Might just tell my manager not to give me any more shifts after the end of this month because I've had enough of this bullshit. Cunts.
I'm sorry. You should not be expected to confront criminals. I hope it gets better or something better comes along.
Thank you, I appreciate the kind words!
I don't know your personal circumstances, but how feasible is it to look for another job? Is there something specifically keeping you there? Sounds like these cunts are putting your mental health at risk, and they're just not worth it, mate.
That's the plan, thankfully it's not that important and I'm not currently in a situation where I literally couldn't afford to leave my job as I still live at home and am lucky to have great parents.
You're right, they're not worth it. Appreciate the thought!
Do you work for a large chain? I think that your head office would have a fucking field day if they found out that your manager was expecting mere store assistants to confront potentially armed and dangerous shoplifters.
If you were to get shanked that would be a H&S lawsuit in the making.
Would almost be tempted to make an anonymous tip to the head office about what's been going on.
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Today is ass. Bored out of my mind, bought Helldivers 2 on Steam and somehow the purchase failed. I have 400+ games on there and have never had a problem before.
I know Steam'll put it right eventually, but that does little to alleviate my current boredom & frustration.
So out of sheer ennui I turned on my work laptop to finish some more support requests (god knows there's a truly endless amount of those in perpetuity) and apparently a vpn update keeps me from connecting to the corporate network.
Guess I'll just go to fucking bed at 19.00 then.
A bad day for you, a good day for tomorrow morning you
Tired, worried, irritated.
I have an exam literally next Sunday night and another one the following day. Professor doesn't fucking know what's going to be on the exam (so there's an hour of my life I'm never getting back) which is literally the only fucking good a professor can do other than grade the homework (which she doesn't) or answer questions about course expectations (she's a terrible listener and doesn't give straightforward answers) for someone ~~with my particular set of neuroses~~ like me. I.e., test topics and what they're expecting us to put on the piece of paper are the only things I can't fucking find elsewhere, usually in far better quality than what I'm paying thousands of fucking dollars to sit through.
I also got a bunch of work due this week from another professor that there was absolutely no way to work on before last Friday.
This week was supposed to be my fucking spring break, but people my age don't fucking get a moment of rest I guess. I've had to explain to my parents like 69 times that even though this week is de jure spring break, I'm going to be a lot more busy this week than usual.
Feeling dull and unfocused but hey, that's pretty good compared to most days. Gotta muster up the focus and inspiration to finish up some assets for the TTRPG I run on wednesdays. And then find a way to integrate the new player to our group in a somewhat organic way. I should be a bit more excited but eurghhh, the fatigue of day to day life's got to me this week.
Watching over my elderly dog who had dental extractions last Friday and is still recovering from the intubation, poor old guy. His throat is very irritated, the vet had told us this but it's hard to see him in discomfort. I'm blowing off work tomorrow to spend with him, I want to make sure he's safe. Work will be there the next day.
Had a great morning with my dear friends at church. I know so many on Lemmy are atheists and I understand that, but I just have the best friends in the world there and it's such a joy. A happy progressive welcoming inclusive place full of excellent people. It can happen.
oh just had a flashback. My dog had a kidney infection in december and was 2 weeks in Dog ICU. 1500 dolard latter and she is here full of energy! Best wishes for your old baby!
Edit: I'm an atheist but Having a comunity is awesome, and religion is just someone elses problem if you make it. :) happy for you!!
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Aw give him a hug for me. We have a rescue cat who had to get all his teeth removed after a severe infection from living on the streets. We fostered him for a bit during his cone-head convalescence, fell in love with him, and wound up adopting him.
I was at church today also, playing music with my wife. I'm not particularly devout to be honest, but I believe in the community which got me settled into a new city and hooked me up with people who helped me live out my dreams. I owe these guys big-time. The priest is an old guy who came out of retirement to say all the stuff he's bottled up for years. He's super-progressive with a great sense of humour and he keeps things short. It's great! Today was his birthday and we all sang to him.
That's wonderful!
I'm not a big believer in Jesus per se, but I get a lot out of the community and just a generally better way to live life, you know?
My dog is a bit better today, he appreciates the hugs. Poor old puppy.
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Doing better, you?
Been getting back on the exercise train. Working on some landscaping in the yard. Made ok progress. As I get in better shape that will improve of course.
Extra energy and motivation today so I am getting back on top of some household chores. It's been a struggle for a while. I hope I can stay on top of things longer this time.
Actually getting better. I got COVID 11 weaks ago and just now I can really say I am finally starting to feel better. Most of the anxiety is gone, the only thing bothering me at this point is pain in my chest, which seems to not go away for some reason, but I'll get there eventually.
I feel like i've reached a point in my life where I can't just keep doing the same thing. I've been a shut-in for a good portion of my life and my political journey has made me alienated from the average person. Especially with how bloodthirsty (and frankly fascist) the average person has gotten it becomes nearly impossible to find any level of connection.
It's just so hard in this day and age to get out and meet people, even if you aren't part of a political minority. It's so easy to just give up and go back to my usual shit but then my life goes back to going nowhere and I can't keep that up forever. But what am I supposed to do when I'm shut out of the walled gardens of the big tech companies, censored and shadowbanned at best? That dramatically fucks over my options.
Overall pretty good.
Doing alright, I think.
Had a good weekend. Went to a rodeo and played a lot of Factorio SE.
Discovered yesterday that my clothes dryer vent is plugged. Probably has been for some time, maybe years? Put in a maintenance request to have it fixed. Hopefully in the next couple days I'll finally be able to dry clothes in a single cycle instead of two. Pretty stoked about that.
Work is a tad stressful. Boss kinda shot from the hip with a new overhaul of our logistical processes and suddenly needs our in-house software restructured with a plethora of new features it was never designed to handle. I fear I won't meet any of the deadlines at the pace I'm going. Boss seems to understand this at least and isn't the type to hold me over hellfire about it.
Looking forward to next weekend. Going to an annual Paddy's Day pub crawl and visiting my parents.
New job performance anxiety has me stressed AF. Doing better than last week at least. Got some stuff done over the weekend to which is nice.
I'm doing wonderfully! Looking forward to cooking tonight, trying out a recipe from Nik Sharmas most recent book. How are you doin?
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Been struggling this week. Idk what it is but if it weren't for getting the kids to school not sure I'd make it out of bed to get to work.
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actually pretty good for once lol. got some stuff in the near future that I'm quite excited for.
Pretty good. Temperature is pushing 38c / 100f so I'm just hiding indoors today.
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