So I'm past 30yo and today I tried to get back into dating. I've joined a discord and most of them are around the age of 20. It feels alien too me to have so many short (1 to 5 words) sentences followed by cat gifs. Not sure if I can do this. I need deeper meaning and longer sentences. :(
this post was submitted on 06 Nov 2023
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Your username is "send me nude girls" , and you're talking about socializing for dating purposes on discord. You might be approaching this on hard mode.
Might I suggest going out in person? Meetups, bars, shared activities, heck even tinder.
My username is more of a joke than anything. I get the first impression vibes though.
You're right about finding outside activities, I need something to build my self worth.
I'd recommend you filter by age, and don't date anyone younger than 25 if you are actually looking for a relationship.
25 is already stretching it. I have a good 25 years old friend and he's often talking in Twitch emoji language. No fucking joke.
Agreed. Well at least you are not walking blindly into this
Discord is tricky because most of it is filled with teens. If you specifically search for 21+, 25+, 30+, etc. communities, you'll have a much saner time in my experience. They do exist out there, but I don't know how many are dating focused.
I'm not mentally ready for over30 parties (but I agree)
That's fair. I feel like mostly I specifically find 18+ and 21+ communities anyway. Since I don't want teens, 21+ is what I tend to shoot for and there are still a fair amount of them.
Although I've stumbled into 25+ servers before. These are the most preferable to me because by that point most people are out of school so they are more relatable.
Introvert too, still managed to get a girlfriend. There is hope
Thanks bro, I needed this.
Good luck, it's always tough to date past 20s
I'm an introvert. I'm basically fucked
It's alright, making small progress on a personal project. My feet are cold though, and it's supposed to be full spring here yet we're having cold damp days.
Nice, is your personal project fun at least?
It's entertaining enough, although sometimes I get bored when I hit a knowledge gap and have to figure out how to do stuff. I'm making a realistic creature in blender, and I'm somewhat new to blender.
Knowing how hard it is to even create something small in blender that seems like a reach to get to straight away. I would more suggest smaller projects like designing little objects in your day to day life and see how well you can recreate them before hoping into something like a full realistic creature.
That makes sense, but I have a fair amount of experience with maya an unreal so it's just the blender how-tos stopping me occasionally. It is time consuming though, there's no way around that no matter which software I choose.
Doing alright, a bit sore from yesterday workout - had a cup of coffee and will start soon my workday, only one meeting scheduled and right at the end so not too bad
Had a fun debate with some civil engineering friends about city design,hexagonal layouts. I'm on my third cup of coffee.
Not well. In a dark place today. Hoping this week goes better than the last.
Take it one day at a time and know people are there for you if you need it <3
I'm doing alright just waiting for my new laptop, excited for it just annoyed it took a few more days than it needed to.
A new laptop, that's always exciting! How does it compare to the old one?
My old laptop can only do basic browsing, not quite as bad as a chrome book but slowing over the past 2 year, my new one is a gaming one and will allow me to create video edits easily, also is loads better than my Desktop that I do most things on, including edits at the moment. (The new one has a 3050 in it)
Nice!