While not exactly the same, the Israeli and Russian treatment of the territory they occupied in their respective wars are similar in their complete and utter apathy for civilians.

No, not really. Israel has been actively trying to genocide Palestine, while Russia hasn't been doing anything worse than what the West does when it invades countries, which is called "collateral damage" when they do it.

albeit with completely different amounts because again, Ukraine has a real army).

A huge amount of Ukraine is entirely under Russian control, and yet, no genocide.

Put another way, if Ukraine had been systematically robbed of and denied the means to defend themselves like Gaza was, it’d also be in a similar situation.

A baseless speculation that you can't back up. Although the fact that the massive parts of Ukraine that are under Russian control, including Crimea, don't look anything like Gaza, is strong evidence against you.

The critical difference here is that Ukraine is in a much better position to resist, not that Russia isn’t attempting genocide. Basically Russia is looking at Israel and saying “I wish this was me”, not “I’m better than that”.

No. You can't just make baseless accusations of 'they totally would commit genocide!' otherwise I'm going to claim the only thing stopping you from slitting the throat of every baby in Moscow is the fact that you physically can't.

See what I mean? You would never make absurd accusations of "counter factual" genocide if it was a Western country. But you need Russian warcrimes to be different from Western ones for your ideology of "the West is bad, but still better than everyone else" to work.

If that wasn't the case, it would be more than enough to condemn Russia for a war of aggression, it's a serious warcrime, one of the most serious in international law. But of course, westerners don't think it's serious at all, and do it all the time, so they need something else to accuse their enemies of. Hence this "counterfactual genocide"