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If I just happen to hurt people, especially those I love, real hard, why shouldn't I just kill myself then?

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[โ€“] lvxferre@lemmy.ml 36 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Okay, I know that this will sound silly, but I'll use my cat as an example.

She does nothing but sleep, eat, shit. She's rather defensive of her personal space, and often hurts us for that. 3AM she woke me up with loud noises because she wanted to play. The floor, my clothes, my keyboard, there's cat hair everywhere, and without her I'd probably need to clean a fraction of what I do.

Would I get rid of her? FUCK NO. Because even if she's annoying, I still love her and I want her around. It would be certainly better if I didn't get those annoyances but hey, nobody is perfect. And she gives me happiness on the small things, like when she headbutts my leg or "mrrown-wown?" at me.

It's perfectly possible that you are in a similar situation as my cat. Except that, as a human being, you understand that you're hurting people, and you can reflect on your behaviour and change it for the best of the ones around you. But it's still perfectly possible that you're underestimating the positive impact that you have in their lives. And at the end of the day, we all are like this, our social interactions are usually a mix of positive and negative.

[โ€“] u202307011927@feddit.de 13 points 11 months ago

Thankyou for saying this โค๏ธ that brought tears to my eyes