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You find someone interesting on Instagram (or Tinder/happn/Bumble if they left their IG handle there), though their profile is restricted. You add that person, which accepts you, sometimes after two or three months. You leave a private message to that person, thanking it for accepting you as a follower, and asking if it wants to talk. Then, silence. Or worse yet, exchanges a few phrases and then ghosts you out of nowhere, without explanation or if you didn't said anything rude.

I mean, no one owes anyone anything in a situation like that, of course, but why bother opening a pathway in the first place, instead of just refusing? And if you find that other not really interesting after some conversation, though not really creepy or weird or over-the-top, why not be polite and say "look, this is not going to work, I don't want to talk to you anymore" or "this thing you said is a red flag for me, bye, take care"?

What bothers me is like, don't we talk anymore like normal people are supposed to? Have personal connections become so disposable like that? Or am I just freaking out and perhaps just need to find out somewhere in the real world where I could bond more easily with real people?

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[โ€“] big_fat_fluffy@leminal.space 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

One thing I think about is the incredible poverty of text.

When you look at a word you get a meaning. But that meaning, it comes mostly from your entire life's experience, your memory, what you've been taught. That's huge. And the word is very very small, comparatively.

So when you're reading, 99% of the content is coming from you. So reading is basically you just talking to yourself. And social media is a million people talking to themselves.

And that's pretty weird.

[โ€“] vfreire85@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Great point. Didn't thought from the point of view of linguistics.

It might set a certain mood. You feast upon the global conversational banquet, yet you still feel hungry.