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Are you lonly? If so, what are you doing about it? (www.youtube.com)

submitted 5 days ago by jeena@piefed.jeena.net to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Basically what the title says, two questions:

Do you feel lonely or socially isolated?
If you are, what are you trying to change that?

According to the WHO it's an epidemic,

I've been emigrating to different countries about every 15 years and had to rebuild a network of friends from scratch every time. The younger I was the easier it was obviously. But that is a lot of work and you need to invest time and energy which I sometimes don't have so much, especially now with a small child which needs a lot of attention.

We meet up as a family with other families about once a month and it's really great, but while my wife keeps in contact with the other mothers in between online, somehow we dads don't even have a group chat where we would do that and perhaps propose to meet up, it's always the women who propose it.

It's kind of weird that its like that and I should change it.

While the WHO doesn't call it outright an epidemic, it seems they think it's such a big problem that they created a specific commission to foster social connection: https://www.who.int/news/item/15-11-2023-who-launches-commission-to-foster-social-connection

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[–] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (2 children)

I felt too lonely so I day I woke up and decided to get a cat. I researched like 3 weeks before my parents finally let me.

My cat didn't really like me 😓

I mean she tolerates me, sometimes rub against me, and lets me pet her belly, but like, I think thats just being friendly to everyone, she didn't really like me. Like she just ignores me all the time. Eh whatever, at least she's cute and lets me pet her.

Didn't really solve loneliness.

[–] colourlessidea@sopuli.xyz 13 points 5 days ago (2 children)

I don’t have a cat but the internet has me believe that this is normal cat behavior - isn’t that true?

[–] mke_geek@lemm.ee 7 points 5 days ago

It depends on how much time you put in with the cat and the cat's personality.

The more time you spend with the cat, especially as a kitten, the more it will bond to you.

[–] ripcord@lemmy.world 5 points 5 days ago

Some cats suck, some don't. Some is how you treat them.

Every cat ive ever had has been pretty affectionate. Boys also tend to be better than girls that way, and girls tend to attach to one person.

[–] lattrommi@lemmy.ml 4 points 4 days ago

RE: cat, Looking directly at a cat or engaging with one directly can be interpreted as an act of aggression. Note that cats do not have the ability to discern species. To the cat, you are one of these things: food; enemy; a bigger cat with less hair. If you ignore the cat, it will assume you are not a threat. It may warm up to you faster this way. Some cats are just jerks too.