Looks like KBin has an edge over Lemmy now in terms of monthly active users.
It's obviously a pretty silly thing, and is not in any way indicative of which project is "better" or more "long-term viable" or anything — instances of both federate with one another, and with the rest of fedi, so it's all one happy family.
That said, it's notable. KBin is a relative newcomer to the "Reddit-like fedi instance" game, and also does not have the tankie baggage.
Anyway, the more, the merrier!
KBin: https://the-federation.info/platform/184
Lemmy: https://the-federation.info/platform/73
Discussion on fedi: https://mstdn.social/@rysiek/110527049024028986
Those are among the worst, yes, but even the existence of subs like gonewild can have the effect of repelling potential users, especially those who don't have an understanding of how the site is organized.
They read an article that talks about a sub for content they find objectionable, and from that point on, Reddit is "that site for (insert content they dislike here)".
Much the same, I'm concerned that Lemmy will be known among those users as "that site for communists that support the CCP".