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What small piece of advice you would like to give that isn't heard enough ? (lemmy.world)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by Vcio@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Computer related:

Don't be your family computer savy guy, you just found yourself a bunch payless jobs...
Long desks are cool and all, but the amount the space they occupy is not worth it.
Block work related phone calls at weekends, being disturbed at your leisure for things that could be resolved on Mondays will sour your day.

Buying stuff:

There is expensive because of brand and expensive because of material quality, do your research.
Buck buying is underrated, save yourself a few bucks, pile that toilet paper until the ceiling is you must.
Second hand/broken often means never cleaned, lubricated or with easy fixable problem.

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[–] Bigoldmustard@lemmy.zip 47 points 10 months ago (3 children)

It’s okay to be bored sometimes.

If you find yourself compelled to do something that’s not destructive to society or yourself, pay attention. Not wearing headphones I brought to disc golf led me to meeting my wife. I just had a feeling not to wear them. Then I met some cool friends. Yada yada yada, life is better.

Get out of your own way. Let things play out and act when you’re able. Try being more passive about small things and see if you’re not less stressed.

Every interaction I have I try to think “how can this go more smoothly”. Life is easy mode if you make people want to be around you.

You can say no and not give a reason and people will respect it more. Give an excuse and watch them act like it’s a puzzle to be solved.

You can’t fix everything at once. You have finite willpower. Do not stack ambitious goals or habit changes.

Understand the only way to ever be good is to fail a lot. This applies to everything. Thinking, conversation, athletics, math, baking, everything.

Garbage in, garbage out. Applies to coding, your entertainment consumption, and food.

In direct contradiction to the above rule I personally believe you MUST have some garbage guilty pleasures. How could you know what’s great otherwise?

Things are not gonna stop happening ever, prioritize.

Try to be kind. People are usually just doing their best.

[–] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 6 points 10 months ago

This is all excellent advice. Thank you for sharing it.

[–] 0_0j@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

Try to be kind. People are usually just doing their best.

This. It's very easy to judge people. So every time I see a disappointment, I retract from judging, and think how could I have done better If I was in their position. (Sometimes going an extra mile and tell them, tho I dnt always get +ve feedback from that)