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What small piece of advice you would like to give that isn't heard enough ? (lemmy.world)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by Vcio@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Computer related:

Don't be your family computer savy guy, you just found yourself a bunch payless jobs...
Long desks are cool and all, but the amount the space they occupy is not worth it.
Block work related phone calls at weekends, being disturbed at your leisure for things that could be resolved on Mondays will sour your day.

Buying stuff:

There is expensive because of brand and expensive because of material quality, do your research.
Buck buying is underrated, save yourself a few bucks, pile that toilet paper until the ceiling is you must.
Second hand/broken often means never cleaned, lubricated or with easy fixable problem.

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[–] Bigoldmustard@lemmy.zip 1 points 10 months ago

It works for most non-family I would say. It shuts down any instinct to investigate. If you allude to a personal issue or medical situation people are gonna want to know all about that.

The thing is it feels kind of rude at first. It’s not though. It’s clear, direct communication. If I’m planning something it’s so much easier to know who’s in.

If it’s someone you don’t want to do something with they’ll figure it out after the third no thanks or so (hopefully).

If it’s a someone you would do something with, just not that, express it! Don’t be afraid to say you don’t hunt but you love bowling or karaoke or something you think the other person might like.

I’m blessed to have a family with a low bar for “sorry can’t make it”, so I don’t typically use this for them.