unless you pay for a "service" that lets them put it by the curb or your garage or designated package box.
Here it's cheaper to get it delivered to a pick-up place near my home. I'll just pick it up on the way home from work, almost as easy as getting stuff from my own mailbox.
I think we are somewhat on the same page here. What matters isn't the word you use, it's the intention behind, which is hopefully obvious from context.
When I get called a nerd, my response goes anywhere between being proud and being insulted depending on context. The word itself has no emotion by itself.
Shouldn't it be the same with many of these words that some people consider racist?