After listening the video where they discussed immich joining futo, I don't have any worries. I have high hopes futo might actually be the company I have long hoped would emerge. Time will certainly tell.
I think people are getting hung up on the word license too much. Though I agree futo should have gone with a better word choice for clarity. License just means supporter in this case.
Grayjay just let's you find creators only any platform there are plugins for. If a creator is on twitch and YouTube for example, it's really just up to you to decide if it's the same person when looking at the search results.
I have a onlykey. Been using it for probably 5 years now. Not sure why they aren't more common.
At best it will add whatever the extra hop is and any network congestion. My VPS host is 2200km away. I should find a closer one.... but it adds 160ms with some spikes in the 200-300 range. This is round trip 4400km roughly All things considered not too bad. My VPS is a 1vCPU, 1GB ram, 1Gbit unmetered, only as wireguard server. Hope that helps.
I sent you a message They are bit bare bones compared to other host but I haven't had any issues with them in over a year. On the wireguard side you're looking for a spoke and hub setup.
This covers it fairly well. https://www.procustodibus.com/blog/2020/11/wireguard-hub-and-spoke-config/
Good luck.
I'm in the same boat so I setup a $2.50/mo VPS and that's my gateway. It took a little bit to get the nftables on vps to work right. I'd recomemned tailscale or similar if you want easy, though I've not ever used them myself.
I use shelter from fdroid never had any i ssues. It does what it is suppose to, guess there really isn't a need for an update.
Syncthing is great for mirroring files across any number of devices. I use it and love it. Just remember Syncthing itself, is not a backup solution.
I've been using Moneywallet too. I only use the expenses features really. Then I can see the break down of how much I'm spending on gas, dinning out, etc.
Edit: the app is on Fdroid.