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Last week I read the gender dysphoria bible and after a few days thinking about it I am coming to accept that I am trans. Everything clicked into place and I feel like I've been electrified. My mindset is completely different and I am actively looking forward to things happening in my life. I want to come out and transition eventually but right now I just want to try wearing different clothes, even if it's just in my room. I'm going to buy some thigh socks since I've always wanted to wear them but I'm 5'10" and my thighs are kind of big so I'm not sure if I can just buy any pair since cis women are usually smaller. Does anyone know any good quality socks I could buy online that ship in discrete packaging?

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[–] deranged_physicist@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Check out sockdreams! They have some great thigh high socks that come up halfway on MY thighs (I’m 6’4”) and they’re very comfy. If the socks are having trouble staying up, you can get some garters like another comment suggested. I got my garters through sockdreams as well.

If you want more fem clothes, I get a lot of my stuff from Torrid. Decent quality for the price, and they have a lot of clearance stuff which helps a lot with the cost. I have some really well fitting jeans from Abercrombie and Fitch, too. Plus size stuff is a safer bet since it often has long/tall options.

Best of luck!

[–] flicker@kbin.social 6 points 1 year ago

@deranged_physicist

@knower

This a hundred. I'm 5'5" but been a thicc chick for life and I gotta tell ya they can even work MY giant calves.

[–] Cybrpwca@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

I had never heard of sockdreams before and was sad that I couldn't find socks long enough. Thank you very much! Now I want everything they have.

[–] fireweed@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

SockDreams.com stocks tube socks (good for larger feet) and extra long socks (good for large/long legs). They also have a lot of pride designs! Their physical shop is in Portland, OR, USA.

Edit: don't forget to buy sock glue

[–] Sierra_Is_Bee@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Unfortunately I'm a little shorter than you also with thick thighs and i've had litrle luck with thigh high socks. The best I've found are sockdreams.com, but even those roll down my thighs after a while. I wish you much luck in your journey discovering yourself! <3

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Invest in garters. Its the best solution I've found to thigh high socks or stockings rolling down. Ive tried ones that advertise as sticking well, but they either don't last long or don't work very well imo.

[–] Sierra_Is_Bee@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

I've considered it but rhe one time I did I just felt very... Not great about how they looked with my thigh size and weight lol.

[–] knower@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thank you! This is exactly what I was looking for. I hadn't considered they might roll but I can try a garter like LadyAutumn suggested. I did some searching and it seems some people use fashion tape for the same thing so I might try that too.

[–] Sierra_Is_Bee@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

Happy to help! :3

[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Everyone else seems to be on the same page with that site, I've never heard but definitely also checking it out, but my main advice is definitely order bigger. My dumb ass knowing I'm big even for male sizes still ordered female L and expected to fit. (it technically does, but is at the elastic's limit)

Also don't buy online while frustratedly drunk.

[–] deranged_physicist@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago

Also, it can be wonderfully helpful to take your measurements! You can measure hip, bust, inseam, etc, by looping a piece of string around your body and then measuring it. Most clothing brands have size charts that let you match your measurements to their size rules. Remember that just because you’re a size 20 in one brand doesn’t mean you’ll be a size 20 in another, always check the size charts.

[–] VirulentAura@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Before I started my journey of self discovery, one of my favorite pair of socks are some (unfortunately male style) knee-high socks. Been slowly been coming to the realization that it was because they made me think that it was similar to how stockings felt. I even called them my stockings for the past year. Wore them under my jeans all the time at work, and if anyone saw them, it wouldn't even turn heads.