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[–] Spuddaccino@reddthat.com 47 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Any soup is cool enough to eat on a first date. If your date gives you crap about something as inconsequential as what kind of soup you're eating, your date should be discarded at your earliest convenience, because they have shown themselves to be an opinionated twat that will bitch about things that don't matter in the slightest.

[–] crystenn@lemmy.ml 6 points 11 months ago

+1 to this. if they're giving you shit about what type of soup you eat the rest of the relationship is not gonna be very pleasant either

[–] Susaga@ttrpg.network 4 points 11 months ago

And since you ordered the soup, they likely have poor taste in soup

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 30 points 11 months ago

Just don’t eat soup on a first date. Soup is a 38th date food. Soup is what you get at a little truck stop after being stuck in a blizzard together for the last 12 hours in a car with no working heater, on your way back from Christmas. Then you get some soup and empty little bags of oyster crackers into it and you look at her and smile because you’re lucky to be with her. β€œOhhh that’s so good” she says, huffing the air over the soup, and tugging off her mittens.

If you had to eat soup on a first date, Pho is the way to go.

[–] supernicepojo@lemmy.world 28 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Phō. I have never had a bad date while enjoying a bowl at a Vietnamese restaurant.

[–] reallyzen@lemmy.ml 8 points 11 months ago (2 children)

And if the date is dull, at least you've enjoyed an excellent soup.

Traditionally served in the morning tho - do you do morning dates ?

[–] OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Bro I'm one for culture but Pho's so delish idgaf when or where I'm having it, that's a great date for anyone with 3 connecting neurons

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[–] JJROKCZ@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago

It might be a morning dish traditionally but it’s eaten at any time of the day in my part of the US at least (Midwest)

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[–] OmgItBurns@discuss.online 24 points 11 months ago

I have a simple soup rule: if they judge you poorly for you or soup, judge them poorly as a person.

[–] davel@lemmy.ml 23 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

Gazpacho is chilled; if that isn’t cool enough I’ll eat my sombrero.

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[–] PowerCrazy@lemmy.ml 17 points 11 months ago

If you are worried about ordering the "wrong" soup, you aren't mature enough to be dating yet. Discover yourself, then you can show show yourself to another person. Otherwise you are just wearing a mask.

[–] CanadaPlus@futurology.today 16 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Ask for scalding hot dishwater to show that you're hardcore. A bowl of hot sauce is also acceptable. /s

[–] guy@lemmy.world 16 points 11 months ago (1 children)

No soup. Too dangerous to eat with a long beard, for a first date. Risk making a fool of myself

[–] Gazumi@lemmy.world 15 points 11 months ago (1 children)

If my date had a long beard with soup in it, I'd think that she wasn't the one for me

[–] Thteven@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

Don't be a soup hater, enjoy a flavor saver.

[–] Yamainwitch@lemmy.world 13 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Seconding the pho, I would even say a hot pot restaurant since you guys can make your own soups which can take some of the pressure off the conversation since you're actively cooking and the experience will be memorable. 🀩✨

[–] Cosmicomical@kbin.social 2 points 11 months ago

This is actually a good idea

[–] Mr_Blott@lemmy.world 12 points 11 months ago

A proper french onion soup is pretty classy

[–] HubertManne@kbin.social 12 points 11 months ago
[–] nomecks@lemmy.world 11 points 11 months ago (3 children)

My first date go-to is my mom's famous 13 bean soup

[–] Daxtron2@startrek.website 11 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I can't even name that many beans. Would you share the list of beans?

[–] nomecks@lemmy.world 17 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)
  1. Kidney bean
  2. Fava bean
  3. Brown bean
  4. Jumping bean
  5. Edemame bean
  6. Soybean
  7. Garbanzo bean
  8. Pinto bean
  9. Green bean
  10. Cocoa bean
  11. Vanilla bean
  12. Mr. Bean
  13. Howu bean
[–] Daxtron2@startrek.website 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

You forgot the coffee bean

[–] nomecks@lemmy.world 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Coffee beans killed my pappy

[–] Daxtron2@startrek.website 3 points 11 months ago

What just because they're brown? I'm calling the cops so they can shoot your puppy and the coffee beans

[–] jcabral9@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] nomecks@lemmy.world 7 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Oh great, it's the bean police

[–] jbrains@sh.itjust.works 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Oh, great! It's the bean police!

[–] Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Do you have the soup at your mom’s?

[–] nomecks@lemmy.world 10 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Only if my date wants to see my 40k collection

[–] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 3 points 11 months ago

And if she doesn't, she doesn't deserve you anyway.

[–] pingveno@lemmy.ml 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Just as long as they're not going to be around me for the beanie consequences to come to fruition, if you catch my drift.

[–] ludrol@bookwormstory.social 7 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Consomme for the first date.
Double Consomme if you really care about him.
Triple Consomme if he is taken by the King to another duchy, and you don't expect to see him for a long time.

[–] fruitycoder@sh.itjust.works 7 points 11 months ago

Shared bowl of all you can eat soup from Italian garden. I am not clarifying.

[–] bestusername@aussie.zone 6 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

The answer to both questions is "ball soup", but the pleasure varies between who's giving and who's receiving.

Childish jokes aside; pea and ham is a good soup for any occasion.

[–] nudnyekscentryk@szmer.info 5 points 11 months ago (2 children)
[–] TerrificTadpole@lemmy.world 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I will wonder, forever, if this is meant to be the good soup or the bad soup.

(Don't tell me.)

[–] nudnyekscentryk@szmer.info 7 points 11 months ago

It's the cool soup

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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I think that a communal dish is the way to go. Those mussels in broth that you eat and dip bread in the liquid are great- something to do with your hands, one big bowl, and small bites so no cutting and long chewing.

Are you making the soup or eating out? If you are making it - sopa de tomate y frijoles is so much better than it should be, you just take an onion, few dried peppers (Ancho are good) can of pinto beans, can of tomatoes, broth of whatever variety. Soak peppers, blend everything including the raw onion, season, cook by simmering on the stove. Tastes even better if you then refrigerate and reheat it the next day. Toppings - crumbly cheese, tortilla chips, pumpkin seeds, sliced scallion greens, pickled jalapenos.

[–] Cosmicomical@kbin.social 12 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Here I was, asking myself what could be worse than having soup on a first date, and there you come with a brilliant answer: communal mussels

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

I love them!

Salad is the worst date food. I love salad but it's awkward to eat.

[–] lesnout27@feddit.de 4 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

broccoli creme soup with ajvar is rather fancy, Kohlrabi creme soup would fit also

[–] match@pawb.social 4 points 11 months ago

brassica, on a first date? you're living in a different world than me

[–] walter_wiggles@lemmy.nz 2 points 11 months ago

Ajvar is the best

[–] reallyzen@lemmy.ml 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)
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[–] JoeBidet@lemmy.ml 3 points 11 months ago

something you cooked from the bottom of your heart, inspired by that person, improvising with seasonal ingredients, with a touch of crazy zestiness (lime, ginger, chili)? something that would taste delicious and show how inventive and thoughtful you are!

[–] beerclue@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

BorΘ™ de fasole (sour bean soup), cold, with mΔƒmΔƒligΔƒ (polenta) and raw onion. πŸ₯²

[–] reallyzen@lemmy.ml 3 points 11 months ago

Anyone who survives this on the first date is probably your soulmate for all eternity

[–] luthis@lemmy.nz 2 points 11 months ago

This is an extremely valid and important question, I am so glad you asked it. Upvoted. Twice.

Tomato soup is definitely the bad one. It sucks in general.

I would also avoid anything with 'chowder' in the name. Idk, just never sat right with me.

The broccoli cream soup @lesnout27@feddit.de mentioned is a definite winner. And any soup that incorporates coconut as a cream or flavour.

Generally I think you would aim for lighter soups, rather than heavy and hearty with tons of solid veges and meat. And it must be compatible with dipping garlic bread.

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