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I love the thought of people thinking of me obsessively and wanting to be just like me.

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[–] MNByChoice@midwest.social 29 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Jealous/envious of me? No.

Impressed by me? Yes.

Inspired by me? Double Yes.

Learn a cautionary tale from me? No.

Edit: proofreading better...

[–] milkisklim@lemm.ee 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

frpm me?

Too late, cautionary tale learned. Jk.

[–] MNByChoice@midwest.social 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My phone keyboard is bad. Fantastically bad. I suck at proofreading, but shit is it bad.

Anyway, cleaning up my terrible editing. Thanks for highlighting it. πŸ˜€

[–] milkisklim@lemm.ee 2 points 1 week ago

Any time! I make typos constantly, so feel free to point mine out in turn.

[–] raptore39@lemm.ee 3 points 1 week ago

I second this

[–] JPSound@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Here's the thing tho. Nobody thinks about you even 1% of what you think they do. It seems like youre saying, "I need validation and want to be a part of the bigger world outside my own" which is totally fair. It's even healthy, especially when compared to escapism and isolation. If your actions and behavior cause people to have a negative reaction, i.e. jealousy, obsessions, I encourage you to reevaluate what's within yourself that desires that negative attention. People will think of you far far more if your behavior and actions gives those around you positive reactions. Trade the desire to make them jealous for inspiring them by being a healthy, upstanding rolemodel. Trade "I" statements for "you" questions. People crave and are drawn to those who show an interest in them, just as you admit to in this post. Make the world a better place, not a more anxious place and you'll find all that attention you desire becomes a far more reasonably attainable goal.

[–] python@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago (2 children)

... do people actually do that? As in, is strong jealousy really a thing?

I'd like to believe that each of us builds their life into the exact thing they need, so swapping places with anyone else would be terribly uncomfortable. So I can't relate as to why anyone would ever be jealous i guess haha

I also don’t get your other replier. I too like the life I’m building but I would appreciate swapping with not having to worry about money haha

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 12 points 1 week ago

You're thinking of envy, not jealousy so much: Envy is when you want something someone else has, jealousy is when you don't want others to have what you have.

I wouldn't want people to be jealous of me, people act very poorly when they are jealous.

[–] Mobiuthuselah@lemm.ee 11 points 1 week ago

Emphatically no. I cut people concerned with jealousy out of my life. That shit's toxic.

[–] blunderworld@lemmy.ca 10 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

I dont know you, but this sounds like narcissistic personality disorder.

[–] samus12345@lemm.ee 5 points 1 week ago

It's a common symptom of it.

[–] weeeeum@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Look through their post history lol

[–] dumbass@leminal.space 10 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Nah I'd rather they leave me the fuck alone and focus on their own shit. But I have nothing for anyone to be jealous of I don't think.

[–] Hatandwatch@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago

I'm jealous of how remarkably average you are.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 2 points 1 week ago

But I have nothing for anyone to be jealous of I don't think.

The thing about jealousy isn't it ain't about the object, it is all about "muhh feels"

And you would surprised how deranged people can get lol

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 9 points 1 week ago

I remember your handle - IIRC you posted before about having Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Wanting people to be jealous of you seems apropos.

[–] Michal@programming.dev 9 points 1 week ago

No, i wouldn't like to be a center of attention.

[–] small44@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

No, that would make me a narcessist

No, to be honest I'd prefer not being perceived at all

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 week ago

Nah. I'd rather go unnoticed by everyone outside those I love.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 7 points 1 week ago

Only people I really dislike. For everyone else, no, I don't need or want their jealousy.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

The older you get, the less you care.

After 30, it is very hard to give a fuck about anything beyond having a fat bank account to care of your dependants.

[–] Banana@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Idk man, I'm past 30 and I care less that I have money and more that everyone I love has what they need.

[–] Mobiuthuselah@lemm.ee 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm over 30 and see true wealth as a measure of the love I give and receive. You can't buy that.

[–] Banana@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 week ago

Yes exactly!

[–] guy@piefed.social 6 points 1 week ago

God no. I wouldn't want to be jealous of me

nope nope nope. I want to be incredibly anonymous.

[–] LambdaRX@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 week ago

Only positive thing in jealousy is: that it would indicate, that I have something to value in my life.

No.

No one should want to be me.

If someone wanted to be me I'd feel nothing but pity and shame.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 3 points 1 week ago

Not really. I find when people are jealous they either try to cut you down in subtle ways, or they self deprecate and guilt trip just because you happen to have something going right for you.

I'd like to be admirable, I think. I'd prefer to rub off on people in a positive way than a negative one.

I've had people jealous of me. People who tried to steal my spouse or thought they would be so happy living my life.

It didn't make me one bit happier. Sometimes it made me suffer, that they didn't see that things were really difficult for me in ways that were invisible.

That feeling that I thought was wanting a perfect life was really needing anxiety meds I am way happier with well-adjusted meds.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

No, quite honestly I do want to live an enviable life AND would be so happy if everyone else did too. I do not want other people to literally want my life, no. I want them to be too happy with their own lives to care about mine.

[–] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago
[–] Sam_Bass@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago

Hell no. The green monster can friggin kill you

[–] monovergent@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago

No, I don't want to attract thieves and weird fans.

[–] lemming934@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 1 week ago

An excellent contrapoints video explores this topic https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPhrTOg1RUk

[–] Reil@beehaw.org 2 points 1 week ago

No; jealousy paints a target on your back. I'd rather people wish well for me and feel that my victories are at least indirectly theirs.

Failing that, I'd want others to be unaware of my existence.

[–] HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club 1 points 1 week ago

No. It makes relations with them difficult.

[–] donuts@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

I love the thought of people thinking of me obsessively and wanting to be just like me.

Depends what for. If you're consuming and spending money you don't have to look successful to your peers, I'd say no.

If you mean jealous because of how good of a person you are, maybe.

Either way, I would hate people thinking of me obsessively. I'd rather just be left alone and let me do my thing.

[–] Suppoze@beehaw.org 1 points 1 week ago

Never thought about it... I'd say no. But I'd like my friends and family to be proud of me (as well as myself)

[–] mayo_cider@hexbear.net 1 points 1 week ago

Not really, but I don't mind pissing off people I don't like and I'm not going to protest if it's caused by jealousy