Asklemmy

My homie. If you're having to do anything other than be open and honest about who you are, you are being affected by it.

This whole idea of not "parading" is bullshit. Why? Because us cis-hetero folks parade our identity all day every day. It's engrained into everything. Pictures of family in cubicles, taking days off to do with the wife and/or kids to the doctor, all those little things that add up to being out as a cis-hetero person.

Being able to just go to work and do your job without fear of consequences just for being under the LGBTQ rainbow is, and should be, an expected right. Period. Doesn't matter if you're wearing your pride lapel pin, or are hunkered down and avoiding anything that isn't purely work related, we should all have expectation that just being us is a right.

Until that right is so perfectly reliable that it never happens that someone gets fired for being gay, or trans, or non binary, or bi, or whatever else is on the list, then all of us are affected by that issue, including us cis-hetero folks. Any infringement on that right to you, or anyone else is an infringement on me as well.

Doesn't matter if I never experience racism directed at me, the effects of it are felt in one way or another eventually. My pale cracker ass may never have the life ground out of me by a cop on my back, but the fact that it can happen to anyone is still a problem. And not just in the "oh, that sucks" way. In the way that when a society is structured where such things occur to one group, it will eventually happen to others.

It isn't if, it's when. A cis-hetero white male might be the very last target, and a rich one the very last of those, but make no mistake that oppression spreads. There's always going to be the next group that's a problem to whoever is wielding the most power. And there's always going to be those willing to participate in making sure those wielders keep their power, for just the trickle off the dick of those power mongers.

I genuinely can't think of a single form of oppression, bigotry, or just general purpose othering that doesn't affect everyone in some way.

The fact you feel the need to hide significant aspects of yourself from your employer means that these social issues greatly affect you. So much so that I'm not convinced this isn't a troll, "it's fine as long as I don't see it" is literally a homophobe trope.

Weird question. You aren’t affected by it, until you are I guess. For instance, can you take your partner to company events where others bring their partners? Can you take the toilet that fits your gender identity? How will your boss/coworkers feel about you when they inevitably find out about your sexual orientation? Nice that you think you can separate your identity from your job, but let’s see how your coworkers feel.

Your comment suggests you are affected by it, because you suggest that you can't be open about it.

Furthermore, it doesn't matter if you keep it to yourself, alt-righters love doxxing LGBT people and reporting them to their workplace. I have a trans friend who's roommate was abusive, and he'd report her to her workplace as having lied on her resume. She went through several jobs as a result of trying to keep her identity a secret like you, because her roommate reporting her and getting her fired (she eventually found a job that didn't give a fuck about her being trans, told him to go fuck himself and helped her move away from him).

Quite honestly I'm amazed this post has been left up because it's basically "don't say gay". "Just don't talk about it and it's not an issue". Yeah, it kinda is a problem if Karen gets pissed off because she saw me giving my boyfriend a smooch when he drops me off at my workplace.

My parents claim there is rampant discrimination and racism towards Russians. They're all hysterical about it, claiming that they need to stow away all their money in a russian bank before the German government starts persecuting them "like they did with the Jews" (yea, literal quote). I'm doubtful that it's as bad as they claim 🤔

I also don't parade my identity at work but I'm obviously still affected by the false accusations and firings I've seen of other queer people. I'm single right now but imagine if the wrong person saw me getting picked up by my partner, my livelihood would be gone and I'd have to go back to my old dead end job where cis men were allowed to scream at me and throw things and management would make excuses.

(I was closeted there too, that place was just like that)

You are affected by anti-LGBT discrimination, you're just not paying attention for some reason.

There's no such thing as inherent good or evil. It's just people doing what they think is best. The closest thing to inherent evil is religion

Pretty much all of them. I am a large white male, so I'm part of the privileged class, at least here in the US. Despite belonging to the LBTQIA+ designation, I don't have to care about how people perceive me, as I'm just too big and white to care. And I'm well aware of that fact. I use that privilege in my own way to protest, denounce and work toward change the best way that I can. I wear skirts, don't have to give a shit about my hair, and cannot truly empathize with anyone else, in regard to their troubles. I care. I will always do the best that I can to support people who aren't born into looking like me. People who don't know my history think I am full of shit or pretending, but that's ok. They don't have to know me. All you need to know is that I support you and people like you.