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[–] UpperBroccoli@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

A transition that, judging from these here two pictures, could not be more extreme. You are almost unrecognizable! And to think you had all this beauty inside of you all along, just waiting to be freed. Congratulations and enjoy!

[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 6 points 18 hours ago

thank you so much

[–] Rongbipper@lemmy.ca 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 3 points 18 hours ago

thank you 🥰

[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 59 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I love being a woman so fucking much. Thank you all for teaching me to believe in myself.

[–] TSG_Asmodeus@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Your eyes are stunning. You are absolutely slaying with that smile.

[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 5 points 1 day ago

thank you so much!

[–] thesporkeffect@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If you don't mind me asking, how long in between the pictures?

[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 31 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

The picture on the left is from October of last year, the picture on the right was from last night. So almost 1 year. My egg broke 4 months ago and i'm exactly 3 months on HRT!

[–] Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's incredible, all that from just 3 months of HRT. It's really impressive. I wish I were that lucky, it took me more than 3 years to get much progress on HRT myself.

[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

mind you i'm wearing a full face of makep there, have lost over 50lbs and spent at least 10 minutes getting that angle just right; I'm working it from every direction!

I guess that makes sense, still is incredible.

[–] thesporkeffect@lemmy.world 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That is incredible. You look so much happier!

[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 21 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Thank you! I'm a completely different and much happier person now. That pic on the left was a good one for the time and I was doing better than usual.

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 31 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Wow, I saw this on my all/Top/6hours feed and thought, "I don't get it, why did the lady steal his hat?" until I realized what instance it was from.

(Editing to add, as a cis woman myself I have to shave my chin daily, good thing it's all gray now and less noticeable. Epilators and laser didn't work for me, so I just shave. There's more of us than you would ever know, so don't let unreasonable female beauty standards give you gender dysphoria, hon.)

[–] ThelittleDoe@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 13 hours ago

Fuck, I needed that and it wasn't even directed to me 🥺

[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 11 points 1 day ago

😍😍😍

[–] AFC1886VCC@reddthat.com 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You looked cool before but now you look

really fuckin' cool.

[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

finger guns

[–] pointnull@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Frozzie@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

As a very fresh transfem (not on hrt yet) you give me power and validation. It's helping a lot. You are beautiful ! Thanks for sharing

[–] OldEggNewTricks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 10 points 1 day ago
[–] Isa@feddit.org 14 points 1 day ago (4 children)

If it's not indiscrete to ask. Did the beard go with the hormones or is there still the need for you to shave? (If it indeed is to indiscrete to be answered, then please just ignore the question. 🙂)

[–] Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Not the OP, but I am transfem myself. No unfortunately beard doesn't go away with hormones. It grows slightly more slowly and the hairs are finer, but it's still there. I haven't had laser or electrolysis to remove the hairs permanently so I still have to shave. I hate it so much, I wish my beard would just go away 😭

[–] Isa@feddit.org 5 points 22 hours ago

Sorry to hear, that it generates that much discomfort, not only to you. 😢

[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

i think that's what this comm is all about!

My beard continues to grow although the rate of growth slowed a bit. It is the only thing that really gives me dysphoria.

On the daily i shave it, on the weekly i zap it with IPL to make it grow even slower/thinner.

In the near term i'm looking into epilating the parts that are safe to.

In the long term i intend to get electrolysis which is how you permanently (i think) stop the facial hair growth!

[–] Isa@feddit.org 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It might be the communities main purpose, but even then different people might experience the same thing with different levels of (dis-)comfort. Therefore my careful question. 🙂 Thank you very much for the copious response!

[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 4 points 14 hours ago

your care is appreciated :) you're welcome!

[–] wetsoggybread@lemmy.world 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Not OP or trans myself but my cousin transitioned and from what I remeber she mentioned that she would need to shave and even set up laser hair removal sessions

[–] Isa@feddit.org 9 points 1 day ago

Thanks! 🙂

[–] ted@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Hormones don't stop beard growth.

[–] Isa@feddit.org 6 points 1 day ago

Wasn't sure about that. Thanks for the answer!

[–] StrongHorseWeakNeigh@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Well I'll be doggoned cowgirl

[–] 0x2640@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 day ago

I'm so happy you are able to finally be you

[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 9 points 1 day ago

😍😍😍

[–] recursive_recursion@lemmy.ca 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] recursive_recursion@lemmy.ca 3 points 16 hours ago

no worries🤗🌻

[–] nick@midwest.social 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] ValenThyme@reddthat.com 5 points 1 day ago

thank you very much <3