I'm not sure if mods are a proper criteria when it comes to comparing Lemmy and Reddit. The audience is mostly the same and Lemmy doesn't automatically make people/mods better or worse.
Also, you forgot one major point: API! I get to use and support my third party app of choice Sync here on Lemmy which was killed off by Reddit.
I want to choose Lemmy but I use Reddit more because Lemmy has technical problems, it keeps logging me out after days or few weeks, Reddit keeps my session for months or years
I agree, I really really want to move completely to FOS, even maby help other people over. But there seems to be many technical limitations.
How can we create a FOS social media for all 😭
Have you tried to change instances? I've tried a couple and didn't had this issue so far.
Logging you out from the website of your Lemmy instance or from a mobile app?
If the latter, try changing app. If the former, try contacting your instance admin, or see if there's a mod/admin community. Worst case scenario, move to another instance.
Staying here and reporting issues would help Lemmy, you know? Much more than just complaining it isn't as stable and mature as a commercial product developed by a company for years.
[REDDIT]
I insulted a mod unknowingly on a subreddit like a decade ago (all I said was that his advice was idiotic) and since then every time I mistakenly post on that subreddit, my account get permabanned and then all my other accounts get permabanned as well. What a completely stupid website.