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What is an immediate turn on when you first meet someone?

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[โ€“] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 25 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Brains. My partner is someone I met on a MUD (essentially text based RPG) who had a character that my character arched and we constantly schemed against each other - until we started scheming with each other against the world.

What a coincidence. I was just yesterday explaining to a young coworker what a MUD was.

I met my first love in one of those.

[โ€“] illectrility@sh.itjust.works 18 points 2 months ago

When they have some of the same interests as you, but for different reasons. It provides for excellent conversation when you can talk about something you're both passionate about, but because you're passionate for different reasons, you have different perspectives, and it keeps a topic you're very familiar with very interesting.

[โ€“] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 16 points 2 months ago

Emotional intelligence.

[โ€“] treadful@lemmy.zip 13 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] midimalist@lemdro.id 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

~~This is the perfect example of "things physically attractive people can do to strangers without negative consequences."~~

Edit: in retrospect, I think this statement is true for people that are intentionally meeting each other (as long as they don't smile unprovoked too much, attractive or not).

[โ€“] Vendetta9076@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] midimalist@lemdro.id 6 points 2 months ago

My parents, thanks for asking

[โ€“] TheButtonJustSpins@infosec.pub 11 points 2 months ago

The ability to sing

[โ€“] ryannathans@aussie.zone 9 points 2 months ago

Happy/smiling and intelligence

[โ€“] DavidDoesLemmy@aussie.zone 8 points 2 months ago

A large vagina

[โ€“] trk@aussie.zone 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] seth@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago

Genuine kindness to others without regard to who they are.

[โ€“] Atelopus-zeteki@kbin.run 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Good communication skills, and a positive attitude.

[โ€“] darklamer@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Do you have any proof for that claim?

[โ€“] Atelopus-zeteki@kbin.run 4 points 2 months ago

Yes, and the proof is in my response. One example: They will probably be in my life for years to come. Turns out the good communication comes from a PhD in Psychology, teaching at the university level, well and doubtless some difficulties in childhood. They genuinely love people, and seem to bring out the best in the people around them. I'm not sure what you are actually asking for; your question seems a bit trolly. Did I get to what you were after?

[โ€“] ArkhamNightshift@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

They're funny without being a try-hard

[โ€“] all-knight-party@kbin.run 6 points 2 months ago

Bonus points: funny and they use their own material and don't rely on regurgitated internet memes or jokes

[โ€“] Corno@lemm.ee 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] 0_0j@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago
[โ€“] JIMMERZ@lemm.ee 3 points 2 months ago

Knowing what they want and not being shy about it. Confidence, intelligence and honesty.