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[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 60 points 11 months ago (2 children)

This seems pretty on par with most of the unicorn-seeking couples I’ve met honestly. The level of emotional entitlement required and the attitude that it’s a “totally straight” interaction.

[–] Zeth0s@lemmy.world 15 points 11 months ago (2 children)

What is a unicorn seeking couple?

[–] Marcumas@lemmy.world 30 points 11 months ago (1 children)

A couple seeking a woman for a threesome (usually). A bi-woman that is actively looking for a couple is very rare so they pretty much get their pick of whoever they want to sleep with.

[–] Zeth0s@lemmy.world 10 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Thanks. I had no idea. Is it a common way of saying in US? Where I live we don't have anything similar

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

I’m in Australia, not the US. I think it’s pretty common? If you’re not straight and a woman, you’ll probably come across it a lot *while dating. Sometimes women will pretend they’re the only one looking, but the telltale is often one picture of her with some dude at the end of her pics. They’ll also try to convince you to do it even if you’re not interested in men.

Edit: A lot of non-binary people also get it actually. I don’t think it really happens to men though.

[–] AlligatorBlizzard@sh.itjust.works 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It happens occasionally to trans men, mostly early in transition but there's always that one illiterate guy who doesn't understand that you're hairy like a wookie and he's not actually interested in you.

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 11 months ago (1 children)

That does make sense. I have an enby friend who’s on T, they had a guy use the line “don’t worry, I like girls who don’t shave” on them. This is why I stopped dating cis men for the most part, they just can’t seem to be around trans people without saying something gross.

[–] violetraven@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

I've seen similar from women in queer spaces asking for "women and enby/trans masc/trans men" as if they're being slick

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

~~Huh? I just say “I don’t date cis men” and that seems to work for me? But I’m a trans woman so I don’t know.~~

Wait, I get it now. Forgive me, I hadn’t had any coffee yet. Or my ADHD meds haha

[–] Zeth0s@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Thanks, but what is a telltale? Sorry I am very ignorant in these things

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It’s like a “sign that reveals something hidden”. It’s often said as “telltale signs”. For example, you might say “these are the telltale signs of alcoholism” if you went to someone’s house and there was a half empty bottle of whiskey on the counter at 9 in the morning.

[–] Zeth0s@lemmy.world 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 11 months ago
[–] Peppycito@sh.itjust.works 5 points 11 months ago

A telltale comes from sailing. They're little bits of yarn attached to the sail. They let you see what the wind is doing. The wind being invisible, a telltale shows you what you can't normally see. In nonsailing use, a telltale is a small thing that shows you the whole truth.

[–] Unlearned9545@lemmy.world 9 points 11 months ago

Im on the eastern seaboard if the US. Its a pretty common term amoung millenials and younger. Plenty of folks older use it, its just not as likely a random personal would know.

[–] funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 5 points 11 months ago

it's very common in fetish, kink and alternate lifestyle communities and has been for decades.

[–] Ranger@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Usually a couple new to ENM/polyamory that often obsessively looks for a bisexual woman to date both exclusively not prioritizing the new partner in the relationship & leading her to feel like a sextoy.

[–] Zeth0s@lemmy.world 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] Ranger@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 11 months ago
[–] AMomentToBreath@beehaw.org 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Does a unicorn have to be a woman? My wife and I are very casually looking for a bi guy to do us both lol

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 11 months ago

Where in my comment did I say it had to be a woman?