2 years ago I had had a break down. I started having panic attacks and I would grind my teeth a bit. Eventually I shattered a tooth. Two years later and a root canal that tooth is causing issues due to an infection. I have a check up on it in a month. It's not really painful, but it's a grim reminder of all the issues I had.

I am a significant amount better than before. Meds and therapy helped a lot. But this tooth reminds me of a time where I was a wreck. It's not a fun feeling. And I don't know what happens next. I never got a tooth pulled for example, I don't know what to expect.

Has anyone beaten anxiety issues? Will I be like this forever?

Edit: Went to my dentist, they looked at it, they are sending me to a specialist tomorrow. Wish me luck.

Edit 2: got scheduled for surgery today, they think they can save the tooth.

Edit 3: Surgery was not that bad.

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[–] TheActualDevil@lemmy.world 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I cracked a molar years ago and I was too broke and underemployed to get it dealt with. As time went on it slowly rotted away in the back of my mouth. I was already depressed and dealing with it just wasn't a priority. It just became a part of my life and I would chew on the other side without thinking and eventually the pain just went away because I was stubborn and I think my brain just stopped recognizing those signals. It was bad.

Last year I went to get it extracted and as I was talking to the dental hygienist about it she said something that I really liked and I was actually really surprised at the compassion from a dentist's office.

I've always tried to be open about my mental problems because the world needs to lose the stigma we've placed on it. I'm not ashamed by any of it, but I definitely understand why many are. So when I told her that I'd spent several years dealing with depression and taking care of my teeth just wasn't a priority at that time, she said "Hey, it's alright. Sometimes we have to let some things go to survive whatever we're dealing with. But you're able to take care of it now and we're gonna help with that."

You did what you had to do to deal with your anxiety and you should be proud of that. It's not easy, but try not to view the tooth as a reminder anymore than a messy kitchen is a reminder that you were too busy to do the dishes yesterday. It's just a result of a thing that millions of people go through every day. You're taking care of it just like you'd wash those dishes, and then you're going to move on with the rest of your day. I still have that empty spot in the back of my mouth and honestly, I forget about it even as my tongue pokes at that empty spot sometimes. This is the first time I've even thought about it in months and months, and it's been about a year since it was removed. As for after, depending on where it is, you might not really notice soon after. Generally there's like this plug of congealed and scabbed blood in the spot that you have to be careful with the first week or so, but I didn't experience any pain.

My own anxiety had my blood pressure sky high when they first went in and they couldn't do anything yet so they gave me a while to calm down and one of the hygienists was there and explained to me what to expect afterwards. She assured me it wouldn't even be noticeable and she was right. But you should be able to ask them as well to get a professional idea for your expectations to assuage your worry. But also, just from experience, I can say that it'll be fine, you'll stop noticing and stop thinking about it once there isn't something in your mouth that you always have to be aware of.

[–] Vej@lemm.ee 4 points 11 months ago

"Hey, it's alright. Sometimes we have to let some things go to survive whatever we're dealing with. But you're able to take care of it now and we're gonna help with that."

That hit a bit hard. I'm heading over to the dentist now, but I think this is what I needed to hear.