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Visiting the US soon - do I really have to tip? (feddit.de)

submitted 1 year ago by kilgore@feddit.de to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Hey Folks!

I've been living abroad for over half my life in a country where tipping is not the norm. At most you would round up. 19€ bill? Here's a 20, keep this change.

Going to the US soon to visit family and the whole idea of tipping makes me nervous. It seems there's a lot of discussion about getting rid of tipping, but I don't know how much has changed in this regard.

The system seems ridiculously unfair, and that extra expense in a country where everything is already so expensive really makes a difference.

So will AITA if I don't tip? Is it really my personal responsibility to make sure my server is paid enough?

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[–] Jessica@discuss.tchncs.de 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (6 children)

You should take a look at https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_US_states_by_minimum_wage and see what the minimum wage is in the state you are visiting. The minimum wage where I am is one of the highest in the nation so I don’t tip anymore.

Edit: I am aware many states have below federal minimum for tipped employees. My point was if they’re visiting one of the highest states, they can fairly guilt-free forgo tipping. Anything below that, and it requires more finesse. Regardless, I have worked in a state for federal minimum wage as a dishwasher and watched servers make the same wage and bring in hundreds of dollars in tips. They would then tip the head chef $10 and leave nothing for the prep cooks and dishwashers so tipping is inherently flawed, and I still discourage it in most cases. The servers absolutely do not work harder than everyone in the kitchen, but they get all the credit when things run smoothly.

[–] iamyourunspokenmind@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 year ago

But a lot of states pay less for tipped labor. Which is why tipping culture started in the first place, and this list doesn't show how much tipped workers make.

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