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[–] OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Middle class white gay men could use their privilege to help out the rest of the lgbtq community instead of being right wingers, but then that would require examining their privileges, and we can't have that.

So pointing out those privileges and how different rights affect different subsections of the community differently because of those privileges is homophobic./s

Fuck off.

[–] frauddogg@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

This is exactly why the only gays I have the time and energy for have to have some melanin in them. Black, Latino, indigenous, it don't matter to me from there but you can't be a hwhite gay and expect to just chill with me anymore; not without HARDCORE vetting. I'm talking "six months to two years worth of figuring out if you're some kind of narc, some kind of #alllivesmatter queer(they exist), or some other kind of malevolent settler-queer" hardcore vetting.

I don't spend an IOTA of my energy on these three-no's-on-they-grindr-profile-assed settlers anymore; not with all the crybullying about "reverse racism" and all these other fuckboy games they'd rather play than actually do any kind of meaningful work on themselves or the way they navigate the world.

Required reading: x

As several scholars have noted, contemporary gay life is marked by high levels of racism directed towards gay men of color by gay white men, with much of the racism manifesting itself as negative sexual attitudes towards, and sexual exclusion or fetishization of, non-white men (Armstrong 2002; Bérubé 2001; Epstein 1996; McBride 2005; Tenunis, 2007). After examining online personal ads and interviewing gay men, Robinson (2015) found that gay white men often exclude gay men of color as potential sexual partners while denying that their racial preferences are racist in nature.

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Despite gay white men’s insistence that sexual exclusion was not racism but rather personal preference, and that these personal preferences have nothing to do with racism, Collander and his colleagues (2015) found that attitudes toward sexual exclusion were related to almost every identified factor associated with racist attitudes in general.

[–] OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm white and Asian but look fairly white and you wouldn't believe(well, you probably would) the fucking shit I hear from white lesbians and trans people too. They're much better than gay men overall but holyyy shit.