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What "little" experiences changed the way you percieved things ? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by needthosepylons@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Idk if "little experience" means something in English, but what I meant is non-life changing/threatening. Things that would otherwise go unnoticed.

For me, it was when I stopped drinking acoholic beverages because.. I ended up finding it boring, I guess.

I started noticing how low key hostile my environment is towards people who dont drink. People started thinking I was sick, depressed, converted to islam, being snob, etc.

Bartenders started to openly mock me when I asked for a lemonade (they still do) : "We dont do that here", "Go to a physician if you need that", "you're in a bar you know ?".

I started realizing how hostile my country/region/groups can be to people who dont drink. Never realized that before.

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[–] squirrel_bear@sopuli.xyz -2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I was doing two master's degrees and I was active in student union. It was impossible to be in three places at the same time. After the first week, I realised people don't really care if you are late or not and if you come or not. Before this I was always minimum 5 minutes early before the starting time. After that I've been late almost always. And not just by few minutes...

[–] porkins@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

People do care if you are late though. Friends and co-workers wait for you to arrive before starting a meeting or activity, but you are now always the very late one. You are tolerated, but will be kept at arm’s-length because they know you are inconsiderate. You can be 5 minutes late to some meetings in order to feign that you are really important and your previous meetings went over because people wanted more of your time, but if you go much more than that frequently, you are just unreliable.