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Idk if "little experience" means something in English, but what I meant is non-life changing/threatening. Things that would otherwise go unnoticed.

For me, it was when I stopped drinking acoholic beverages because.. I ended up finding it boring, I guess.

I started noticing how low key hostile my environment is towards people who dont drink. People started thinking I was sick, depressed, converted to islam, being snob, etc.

Bartenders started to openly mock me when I asked for a lemonade (they still do) : "We dont do that here", "Go to a physician if you need that", "you're in a bar you know ?".

I started realizing how hostile my country/region/groups can be to people who dont drink. Never realized that before.

Edit : typo

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[–] Spzi@lemm.ee 29 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I forgot the details, but I remember vividly the strong feeling of being right about something. And then I learned I was wrong.

This was when I started to distrust that feeling. It is comforting, but not a trustworthy guide to truth.

[–] oshitwaddup@lemmy.antemeridiem.xyz 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yes! For me that has happened a few major times i can remember. I used to be a huge apple fanboy, until i learned i prefer android and linux way more. i know that's kind of a lame example but it was the first time i became aware of what you're talking about and opened the door to me thinking critically about other things - namely religion and ethics. The other two major times i've had this feeling was with religion, realizing it's not true and leaving the church, and then after that having to think about ethics for myself and realizing there's no good reason to exclude nonhuman animals from moral consideration. That exploiting and abusing them for taste pleasure and fashion and tools was totally unjustifiable.

It's definitely a bizarre feeling, but it's very important to be open to it and stay on the lookout for other things one could be wrong about

[–] Spzi@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

I used to be a huge apple fanboy, until i learned i prefer android and linux way more. i know that’s kind of a lame example but it was the first time i became aware of what you’re talking about and opened the door to me thinking critically about other things

That is perfectly fitting. Thank you for understanding what I meant and expanding with details. I can totally relate to everything you wrote.

I find the example about taste or preference particularly interesting, since there is no objective answer. Still, the mechanics are similar. It is easy to commit to one particular idea, to one specific self-image. But maybe 'you' aren't exactly what you thought you'd be? Being more humble and open can be a liberating experience.

On a related note, I strongly recommend playing theater, especially for everyone who believes they cannot do it.

[–] needthosepylons@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

As a regular victim to this feeling, that's something I needed to read. Thank you :)