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My family has rules and positions we vote on. We're all adults out of the parents' house. We collaborate on a lot of projects and travel together in different combinations; the rules, or guidelines really, make us more efficient.
I am often travel coordinator for joint trips. Someone else handles food coordination specifically. The youngest calls meetings, usually on a quarterly to yearly cadence, and publishes the meeting notes to a shared cloud drive. Another is in charge of coordinating a Christmas gift exchange. We've rotated being financial and medical backup/adviser to the parents and those roles also comes with responsibility to update the other siblings on major changes.
Is there a political drama on your family, would love to watch it
One brother doesn't share or give up decision making well. The roles are intended to be project manager rather than dictator; the person is still expected to solicit opinions and delegate tasks to others. He gets frustrated really quickly when he doesn't get his way entirely and will get to a point where he doesn't hear other people's perfectly reasonable views.
But it's been this way forever, it's his personality. He knows it. A few of us are pretty good at calling attention to his behavior in a way that he doesn't feel attacked by and he'll chill out. One just goes toe to toe more aggressively with him and that tactic works sometimes too.
How much shit does your family go through that you need bylaws and a treasurer?
Probably the one reality show Iโd watch.
It would be very dull. Lots of spreadsheets and bulleted agendas.
Just a big family that lives all over the country, sometimes world. We all want to stay close and this is what works for us. We maintain very low levels of shit and would like to keep it that way.
The middle brother i take it?
Youngest brother, second youngest overall.
Interesting. Our family does the exact opposite of this
I thought you were bringing the potato salad!?!?!
You walk back in from school/work and find out extended family decided to drop in unannounced?
Your family sound like a corporation.
Sounds like you're two steps away from filling timesheets