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I put the napkin math at closer to 5,000-10,000. Judging by how few people the average person interacts with on the daily, and how many people are also in happy relationships from a selection within that tiny sample size of the world populace. It really stands to reason that there are a lot more compatible matches out there than our romantic notions care to admit.
That said, the chances of actually having a meaningful interaction with more than 0-2 without heavily investing time and effort in meeting new people is also pretty slim.
And people are more similar than we think. For every interest you have, or every value you hold, there are millions who also like that interest and hold those values. And these things often happen in clusters: enjoying rock music means you likely enjoy metal; valuing honesty means you likely also value loyalty, etc. All this to say, if the world created someone like you once, it's near impossible that there isn't someone else like you.