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Some people have more friends than others.
Part of that is how friendly they are. Part is how pretty they are. Part is how smart they are and how able they are to help others. But part is how much they can afford to throw fancy parties, go to expensive schools, or get good health treatments.
The more friends you have, and the more friends your friends have, the more you can get done in society. If you want to start a business, get elected, or other things that require a lot of other people's support, having lots of friends helps.
Sure it's not fair. What you can do is figure out how to be a good friend to those around you and work well with others. This includes things called "allyship" and "solidarity" as well as just being nice to people and having useful skills.
That is much simpler and kid friendlier way than I could come up with. Kudos! A minor nitpick is that use the word friend implies that they are a peer, which in the case of role based status like a teacher doesn't really fit.
I guess what I am looking for is a way to explain the double standard where its thought of as okay teacher or parent to yell but it is frowned upon if a kid does it.
Oh, well that's not social status as such. It's also "okay" in mainstream society for a police officer to yell at a corporate VP situationally, even though the VP has more buddies and more money and a better health plan and a hotter partner than the police officer does.
Good explanation, just watch out so the kid does not start being wired with it's friends. Maybe explain different kinds of friends.
This is exactly what i was thinking...
This is a perfect explanation for a sub-18 yo...
To a child, not so much...
But again, this is 2023, children these days are waaaaay smarter than us back in the 90's
Well, you could just have the kids watch My Little Pony to learn about the power of friendship.