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[โ€“] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 year ago (5 children)

That's sweet, Ive only said that to my gf and I cringe at the idea of ever saying that. Saying it to one person is tough enough I can't imagine saying it to anyone else. That's a really nice habit to have!

[โ€“] cynar@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I sadly lost my nan, unexpectedly a while back. It's a significant comfort to know some of the last words I spoke to her were "I love you both".

[โ€“] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

So sorry for your loss, i've had terrible luck with last interactions with my grandparents before their deaths.

[โ€“] cynar@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

It's one of those things. I've managed to purge the negative feelings now.

Ironically, I don't really remember our last interaction, in person. It was pleasant and enjoyable, but so normal as to just blur with other visits. That amuses me quite a bit (so many nice visits I can no longer pick 1 out). My habit of saying "I love you" at the end of every visit helps a lot.

[โ€“] TeaHands@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago

It takes a bit of practise to get over the awkwardness. But it's totally worth it.

[โ€“] KittenBiscuits@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago

When i started doing this, my other family members were a little weirded out, but now it feels natural to part this way and their response feels natural too. I'm so glad i started.

[โ€“] Agent_of_Kayos@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

It took me time to get there, but I say it to my close friends now, because it's true. I love them, platonically and they deserve to know that. You never know how long it's been since someone felt loved