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Is it wrong for 25M to date 19F? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by MTK@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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So I met this girl by chance and we really hit it off, once I learned of her age I decided to just be friends as I think that 19 to 25 is an age were we mature a lot and I remember myself as a 19yo and I was not mature enough to be a good partner and to be good to myself.

I talked to a female friend of mine and she said that I'm over thinking it and that I should ask her out and be open minded, and so I did and we are going on a date soon.

The thing is, she seems really mature but I can't put aside the age gap.

Am I over thinking it? Should I really just take it slow and just be vigilant about the situation and notice if this isn't healthy for me or her?

Or should I let her down easy and continue as friends?

Update: We went on a date and it was great, I read all of the comments and there were some really good advices that I took to heart. I will take things slow and try to be as aware of the situation as possible. I hope it will go well :)

Thank you everyone!

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[–] punkisundead@slrpnk.net 54 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The thing is, she seems really mature

Every time I read this I cringe. Because most of the time this comes from someone that cant really judge that. You dont seem to know each other for a long time or have a deep connection.

Besides that I wish both of you the best and maybe it turns out as some of the positive stories in the other comments. Or not. Both are ok.

[–] HonoraryMancunian@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I suspect people often mistake 'chilled out' or 'doesn't enjoy partying much' as mature.

[–] MTK@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

True but not in this case, I'm looking at it from a world-views and emotional understanding point of view.

[–] MTK@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Its true that I don't know her for long, she seems mature from my short time with her but I know it doesn't say much