Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
- Please follow the rules of the lemmy.blahaj.zone instance.
- Bigotry of any kind will not be tolerated.
- Gatekeeping will not be tolerated.
- Please be kind and respectful to all.
- Please tag NSFW topics.
- No NSFW image posts.
- Please provide content warnings where appropriate.
- Please do not repost bigoted content here.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
To make such a request, at the start of the body of your post, not in the title, the first line should look like the this: [Requesting Engagement from _________]
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Yeah, for trans people it's not the same as just a name. Your name is strongly associated with how others perceive you. Its associated with the gender others assign you. It goes beyond simply a word.
For instance, if anyone in my life ever were to refer to me by my deadname I would correct them immediately without hesitation. That's not my name. That name was used to reinforce my gender by other people. People in my life who refused to accept me used to call me that name. When someone calls me that name, they're rejecting who I am and insisting that I be who they want me to be.
What you were describing was essentially like if someone had previously referred to me by a nickname based on my current name but for some reason had stopped, and then they referred to me by that nickname again. That wouldn't bother me and is separated from the concept of deadnaming.
I'm going to remove this comment not because it is malicious or not in good intentions, but because this community is a safe space for transfeminine people specifically and this kind of question can be triggering to people who have experienced denial of their identity by friends and family. I'm not banning you but when engaging here please bear in mind that vulnerable trans people are here and that maintaining a welcoming presence to all transfeminine people is the purpose of this community.