Who threatened a nuclear strike in response. If that’s true, it does paint a different picture of the situation, does it not?

Not really, because what that means is Russia now just has to say "nuclear war" any time they want to kill Starlink in Ukraine. If he had real concerns he was more than capable of getting in touch with the correct people. Instead he decided that he, not the Ukrainian military, gets to make calls on drone usage.

He wants to cry crocodile tears about how he never imagined Starlink would be used for war when he made it accessible to Ukraine after the Russian invasion... well, they're in the middle of a war. If he truly is that stupid he has absolutely no business making decisions any more complicated than "caf or decaf?"