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Take some time, like 30 minutes to an hour, and just try to desensitize from everything kinda. No music, no games, no phone. Whatever I want to do in that time I do. Be it some cleaning, a walk in the woods, just laying there mostly lol. And just think about whatever I need to think about.
A lot of the times it's negative thoughts, but it's been more less negative the more I do it. But I've found you have to just work through those negative thoughts and feelings and let them be. They will always be a part of me, doesn't mean it has to always be a hurtful thing. Lessons are best taught the hard way IMHO, and all I can do in try to be a better person. Once I started letting those bad times play out and think just how I can be better, I thought about them less as I gave myself more time to just freely think.
After a while, those times where I'm disconnected from everybody stopped being frightening and now are something I happy partake in.
I can keep writing a bunch on this lol, but I heard a thing where when naming the top 5 people you love, you should be number 1. Not in a selfish, narcissistic way but you are going to be the one that's always there for you. So may as well try to be your own best friend.