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What does the fear of being judged by others hold you back from doing that you would otherwise do? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Thorny_Thicket@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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To be fair I still do these things but only when I'm alone.

Personally I love finding big puddles and then dig drains with a stick or my heel and watch the water flow.

Also love to throw a piece of wood into water and then toss stones high up in the air and try hit it imagining it's a warship I'm trying to bomb.

Then also without going into details there are some pieces of clothing I would like to wear but don't because they're considered femine or gay.

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[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Eh, no biggie! People do that when they don't experience a similar behaviour themselves.

As for the not that deep crowd, I always thought they're either self conscious or fear touching a triggering topic. Refusing to engage means they won't be judged on their opinions or ability to reason and express themselves. Trying to pass a cool is what gives away they're trying to cover up something.

[–] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 2 points 1 year ago

I think part of it is them being self conscious but I think it was also just seen as a "cool" way to behave like you said. I often saw this mentality on reddit of course and in various discord servers where people just couldn't back up what they were saying - so someone else approaching them with an in depth take, just causes them to try and shut things down with "oh its not that deep".

Like its a very dismissive phrase meant to shut down conversation.