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What does the fear of being judged by others hold you back from doing that you would otherwise do? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Thorny_Thicket@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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To be fair I still do these things but only when I'm alone.

Personally I love finding big puddles and then dig drains with a stick or my heel and watch the water flow.

Also love to throw a piece of wood into water and then toss stones high up in the air and try hit it imagining it's a warship I'm trying to bomb.

Then also without going into details there are some pieces of clothing I would like to wear but don't because they're considered femine or gay.

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[–] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Halloween is the best time to try out dressing up!

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Will definitely need someone to help with makeup, because if I do it, I'll go all out.

On that note, my inner excitement when thinking about going full femme speaks volumes

[–] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I didn't really learn make up until late in life, like my late 20's. But I only learned after watching several youtube videos and instagram too. I'd totally recommend just watching people put on make up and imitating what they do. It really is just painting your face by tracing the outlines of your bone structure.

I'm always excited to be hyper femme lol

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I just want to thank you real quick for being so encouraging, it really means a lot to me.

Talking about it like it's the most normal thing in the world is still something I have trouble with, there's probably lots of internalized stereotypes going around that head of mine.

So thank you, really. It helps a lot.

[–] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

No problem! I guess I have kind of ulterior motive though. I just like when guys are more interested in being femme in general. So of course I want to encourage it to be more normal.

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

You should. No reason to call it an ulteriour motive when people have expressed the interest themselves already

Sometimes they just need a little nudge. Or a big one. Either way, keep doing what you do, you're awesome

[–] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 2 points 1 year ago

Thanks and I will!