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AITAH My brother is a Musk apologist and I no longer want to come to his wedding (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 week ago by dhcmrlchtdj__@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I’ve had several conversations/arguments recently with my brother making clear my system of values and my hatred for the wealthy. He is nearly diametrically opposed on all accounts and often makes light of their actions. He goes so far as to say that poor people and people in need of social services should have to figure things out for themselves. He often defends Elon Musk and champions him for being self made.

He is getting married in a foreign country soon and I have been able to put aside our differences and have been planning on going

…up until yesterday that is. I asked him of his thoughts on Musk’s seig heil maneuver and he sent a right wing meme of democratic leaders caught mid wave, saying that “they did it first”. He continued to be avoidant and didn’t respond to me calling it a strawman.

In this moment it feels necessary to cancel my plans to send a message that this is not ok. Am I the (or an) asshole for not going to his wedding because of this?

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[–] Triasha@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Do you want the option to see your brother again? Mend bridges at some future point?

There are some things you can't take back. I have a grandmother in law that skipped my wife and I's wedding and we have not spoken to her since.

I don't want right wing apologia in my life. I do not enjoy biting my tongue to avoid arguments. I understand why you wouldn't either. But skipping a wedding is serious and maybe permanent damage to your relationship. If it will free you and leave you better off, don't go. If you will regret it, probably go and do the best you can.

[–] Taalnazi@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

The brother chose that path a long fucking time ago when he turned to nazidom.

The brother is responsible for tearing apart himself from family, not vice versa.