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AITAH My brother is a Musk apologist and I no longer want to come to his wedding (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 week ago by dhcmrlchtdj__@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I’ve had several conversations/arguments recently with my brother making clear my system of values and my hatred for the wealthy. He is nearly diametrically opposed on all accounts and often makes light of their actions. He goes so far as to say that poor people and people in need of social services should have to figure things out for themselves. He often defends Elon Musk and champions him for being self made.

He is getting married in a foreign country soon and I have been able to put aside our differences and have been planning on going

…up until yesterday that is. I asked him of his thoughts on Musk’s seig heil maneuver and he sent a right wing meme of democratic leaders caught mid wave, saying that “they did it first”. He continued to be avoidant and didn’t respond to me calling it a strawman.

In this moment it feels necessary to cancel my plans to send a message that this is not ok. Am I the (or an) asshole for not going to his wedding because of this?

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[–] dhcmrlchtdj__@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Who are “they” in this situation? Maybe I’m completely blinded by leftist propaganda but the divide seems pretty inherent to the differences in my brother’s values to my own.

[–] ganymede@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

obviously this is all just my opinion, but it seems evident to me:

the oligarchs.

they've realised their best shot at power is by dividing us cos there's no way this shit would fly otherwise. that's why they've been flooding us with every single possible topic of division, black vs white, straight vs lgbqt, even lgb vs trans (!!!), young vs old, boomers vs millenials. city vs rural.

all of that said, if you just don't think you can stomach the wedding event then you're nta imo.

[–] dhcmrlchtdj__@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I get where you’re coming from but I’ve conceptually divorced my brother from these black and white dichotomies for my whole life, and to what cost on my own psyche? Ultimately we do have to pick sides and cultivate our own systems of values based on the world around us. He is not a neutral individual, nor am I.

To me there is only one true dichotomy and he has chosen the side of oligarchy and I have not.

[–] tisktisk@piefed.social -2 points 1 week ago

"Ultimately we do have to pick sides" Do we? Skepticism and reserving judgement is truly extinct I guess. These false dilemmas perpetuate the oligarch's rule.

God beckons you to escape the illusion of non-illusion. Who's side does she "have to pick"?

[–] Taalnazi@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Moving the goalposts... Nazis WANT to move those. They are allies of capitalists, because Nazis favour a very top-down economic structure, where large coorporations work with the government to maximise profit. In that regard. Nazis often think that if they bootlick coorporations and dictators enough, they can acquire all the wealth and power -- which they don't.

If someone needs to reconcile, it's the Nazis by denazifying entirely. Not the normal people. THEN we can fight capitalism together as united forces.