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People with ADHD: What are the things about it that people don't get? (lemmy.world)

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[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 day ago

ADHD can feel like you're putting in 350% of effort 100% of the time but only achieving 50% of what others achieve, and then being treated like you only put in 10%.

My whole childhood & life before diagnosis, my intelligence and literally everything am good at was used as proof up career & academic & household stuff out of spite.

The paradox of #ADHD - being excellent at complex, high-stimulus tasks and fuck- all at routine, "easy" tasks was a weapon in the hands of parents, teachers, & employers and a constant abusive echo in my brain.

What internalized was that accomplishments that were fun or that came easy to me had no value, only the ones that involve effort "count." But the things that involved the most effort for me were mundane tasks that came easy to others, so they had no value, either.

ADHD involves SO many micromoments of shame. Stepping Over the pile of laundry. Re- remembering the bill you still haven't paid. The sink full of dishes and the fridge leftovers lurking in the back. The small but recurring should have" is cumulative and it's painful.

The last one's text wasn't "Select"able on my phone