Technology

I recommend taking it a bit more slow. I've been moving that direction over the past year or so, and these are the changes I've made:

1. switch to Tuta email from Google
2. replace phone w/ Pixel phone to install GrapheneOS (needed upgrade anyway)
3. configure my NAS to eventually replace Google Drive (have NextCloud set up w/ LibreOffice Online)

And some things I'm in the middle of:

• replace the handful of Google apps I still use w/ my NAS setup - still use Sheets and Keep
• configure VPN on my WiFi network - have tested it out, just need something more permanent
• switch to a VOIP number so my calls and texts go over data, which I can encrypt w/ a VPN, as well as take calls/texts on my computers
• convince SO and other family members to use something other than SMS (probably not happening)

I eventually want a Linux phone, but the current iterations just aren't good enough (battery, audio, etc). So I'm cutting out as much as I can in the meantime, and transitioning slowly.

So far, none of my changes have required any effort from my friends and family. My old gmail address forwards to my current Tuta address, and getting them to switch which email to send to is pretty easy (will do that soon). All the apps I need work fine on GOS, and I'm the only one using my NAS (except for Jellyfin, which my SO and kids use).

I recommend you take a similar path. Prioritize changes that impact your family and friends as little as possible, and then optimize from there.

When trying to get others to switch, don't make it all about privacy, make it about features. For example for Signal, there's a desktop and mobile app, so you'd be more likely to see someone's message vs SMS and FB (esp. if you don't use FB much). It also supports screen sharing on video calls, groups (and group calls), etc. So it combines features from other apps into one so you don't have to juggle apps/devices.

For example, I wanted to switch to Jellyfin so we could cancel our streaming services, and I sold it to my SO and kids by saying we could easily watch all of the movies and shows we already have, and I'm willing to buy whatever shows/movies they want and I'd rip them. So the kids each asked for a specific show, so I bought complete seasons of those and ripped them, and now they're happy, I'm saving money, streaming services can't track me, and things work even when the internet is dead.