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What is the worst thing your parents ever did to you? (lemm.ee)
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[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 36 points 2 days ago (3 children)

My mother passive aggressively bullied me regarding potential love interests to the point I was absolutely terrified of even mentioning boys from my class as dealing with her unfounded teasing was unbearable. This didn't help at all with my romantic relationships, I was always lacking in support in the area as I turned the topic into a taboo during my adolescent years, at home in particular.

As for my father it's not much what he did but what he didn't do. He's one of the smartest men I've ever met, he is good at managing his finances and networking yet he never gave me much support or pushed me to achieve anything in these areas - when he did it was briefly in the form of criticism. Again, this also snowballed into an adulthood problem I'm still grappling with.

[–] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That’s horrible and a great way at making sure your child hides their love life and possibly makes impulsive and dangerous decisions.

My parents pulled out a pack of condoms from my toiletries bag one time I visited for the weekend during university and my dad mocked me for having them.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 3 points 1 day ago

That first paragraph pretty much summarizes my love life, fortunately I'm not one for dangerous but plenty of stupid.

I'm sorry that happened to you. I know the feeling :(

[–] dosse91@lemmy.trippy.pizza 17 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'm a guy but I had a very similar experience with my mother basically making it an embarassment to talk or let alone date anyone. I missed out on a lot of things before I realized that what was going on wasn't normal.

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

And then they wonder why you don't tell them things about your life, like what your hobbies are (if you are even able to enjoy hobbies anymore) or what you're enjoying.

[–] dosse91@lemmy.trippy.pizza 2 points 1 day ago

I do have hobbies and enjoy them, but I tend to hide everything from them, even meaningless things.

What pisses me off mostly is how much I missed out on when I was younger for her stupid ideas, things like "you want a wife from your city", "but she's black!" (yes, I'm into black women), "he's gay, if you go out with him everyone will think you're gay", "the trip is too long", shit like that...