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If I were still dating (I’m not) but one of the things I find out early on is: would they be for or against marriage/relationship counseling?
If they respond with they would never agree to see one, I end the relationship very fast. I won’t waste my time with someone that will never look to fix things.
Many times you can fix a relationship by simply talking, but sometimes it requires a professional.
My viewpoint is in every other walk life we are willing to ask for help. Baseball, football, business, repair of your car, repair of your phone or your computer. Something is wrong with not afraid to walk to a professional and say I need help. For some reason, what comes to our relationships we just won’t ask. Even if the other half of the relationship is saying we need help, there’s way too many people will say no I’ll never enter that room.
To me, that’s just a person who doesn’t want to work at the Relationship. I won’t waste my time. But as I said, I don’t date anymore. I won’t date, but when I did date, that was one of the things I looked at.