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The sad truth is that the right are pandering to homophobia because it's a vote getter for them not because they really care about it.
A huge portion of religious people believe that homosexuality is an especially dangerous sin because it's a social contagion, they see the increased popularity of gay things and the decreased respect for religion as a clear sign that the devil is winning and faithful, godfearing society is collapsing. To an extent they're right, modern views on self determination and respect for others is anathema to Christian society as it's been for over a thousand years - to the faithful it's like saying the sky is pink or fish live in trees.
There are of course now grifters using homophobia to draw people into their political ideologies but it's generally people from homophobic families in homoohobic communities that get drawn into it, it's easy to forget that when you see a twenty something year old kid making homophobic comments it's likely at his age his dad was going 'queer bashing' for fun with his friends and certainly wouldn't have hesitated to beat up a gay person in a bar or in the street if encountered.
Even big artists like Eminem had deeply homophobic messages in his music, now that's backtracked and he's friends with Elton - this isn't entirely because he's grown as a person but because at the start of this century it was unconscionable that rap or hip hop could be anything but homophobic. School kids used the word 'gay' to describe uncool or disliked things so commonly it was even part of my own vocab despite being raised in a progressive and accepting family in a liberal area.
Things have changed so much just in my adult lifetime but it's not universal, a lot of religious and conservative people see the 'gay agenda' exactly as you see the 'homophobic agenda' in that they believe it's political narrative being pushed just to destabilize morally virtuous power structures to allow corrupt and evil people to take power and steal money.
Companies that shoehorn a poorly written gay character into everything for the sake of inclusivity feel like a pandering cash grab to me but to the homophobic Christian it feels like asymmetric warfare from a deranged and selfish elite hellbent on ruining western society.
It's a hugely complex issue for me, I honestly have no idea what the best thing for the greater good is. Forcing things too hard can be painful for those unready which causes resentment and reaction but holding back and allowing non-violent homophobic behavior to exist in our society is hurtful to those struggling to find snd accept themselves. (For example being 17 and trying to reconcile popular music explicitly talking about how your unexplored sexual desires are disgusting, realizing you have to make the choice between humiliation and self denial - and this is probably a big part of other emotional troubles which can lead to rejection of otherwise sensible social norms leading to unhealthy drug use, self endangering behavior and other things that still have lasting damage to my life to this day)
I don't know what will solve these complex issues in our society, maybe making certain concessions to mildly homophobic sections of society would stop driving them into full on culture war crusaders? Maybe highlighting that it's not only possible but probable to be gay and boring would help ease the anxiety? I actually kinda think straight pride type events and companies pandering to heterosexuals could be normalized and accepted more - not in a way that pits them against everyone else but more of a everyone gets a party kinda way. Stop heteros feeling attacked or at least make those who want to paint that picture looking silly.
It's sad to admit but humanity is naturally kinda selfish and shitty, bigotry and group thinking is as natural and easy to us as breathing while compassion and understanding takes effort and the right circumstances to flourish.
excellent writeup
i agree with alot of what you said and will try to hit a few key issues and hope i can add something to the excellent perspective you've cast.
exactly, they know its a very useful mechanism to accumulate power. so imo we should constantly remind ourselves - they'd be doing this anyway. if homosexuality didn't exist or was non-viable for this, they'd be onto something else. they'd have used any topic to get what they want. (you could ofc have a metadiscussion about why certain topics are more powerful than others. but thats a different discussion).
another critical point, as you correctly identified, this is how christianity has become, not what christianity was even purportedly about. if you take the actual words attributed to jesus in the bible, afaict never said a god damn thing about being gay trans whatever. according to their own book - after centuries of fucking with the bible - it STILL says the greatest commandment of all is to love your neighbour as yourself and you can't judge cos you're all fuckin sinners afterall.
so it's all hypocrisy built upon hypocrisy , basically typical "there are 5 lights" bs. in other words it has all the fingerprints of a propaganda pathology not an expression of positive spirituality.
yeah to that end i think the OPs timeline of 40 years was a bit optimistic, or we at least have to recognise that represents a cross-section of OPs experience which wasn't necessarily universal 40 years ago. that said i feel there has been a backslide in the last say 10-15 years)
tbh i think thats because its probably both at the same time, its a documented soviet technique to covertly fund two sides of an issue to control the outcome. not picking on the soviets btw, just that they did a great job perfecting these kinds of things, wrote it down and then the power structures keeping them secret began to collapse and the methology leaked to the public.
we see this in a simpler form where corporations invest in pride month and also unironically heavily invest in homophobic organisations, (so i guess it doesn't always have to be a cold war operation for powerful entities to effect control via seemingly conflicting interests).
and in what is presumably a less consciously aware context, consider how jk rowling veils her attacks on the trans community behind a thin veneer of "caring about gay people". i'm strongly of the belief if she'd been born 50 years earlier she'd be jumping on the homophobia bandwagon instead of the currently "trendy" transphobia bandwagon.
to say another way, not everyone pretending to be our friend has our interests at heart, infact sometimes they're just trying to accumulate power by taking the positive stance on this issue - probably for no other reason than the negative position won't currently yield them as big a return.
and this can lead to eg. conservatives becoming outraged about a stance taken by someone who is vocal and politically motivated, but who has no business speaking on our behalf, then conservatives end up feeling like they're "under attack from the homosexuals" when it wasn't even a homosexual who said it!!
next the conservatives says some hateful thing in retaliation, people respond to that and it spirals...everyone loses (except perhaps the actual perpetrator). this is definitely a flaw in human thinking where our tribalism clouds our perception, we feel under attack and in the heat of the moment incorrectly assess which side someone is taking (or even that there's only 2 sides, when in life there's probably rarely ever only 2 sides).
again, its probably both? tbh i don't think that laziness is the only explanation for the woefully shoehorned characters we're currently getting. honestly its fucking insulting (to us, not the biggots - though the biggots might feel insulted too?). as you mention its a profitable cash grab, and i'm sure it hasn't escaped their notice that a certain type of aggressively half-arsed inclusivity will provide alot more value to them from the hysteria it generates vs actually doing it 'right' in a sensitive and compassionate way, which might actually lead to healing.
if healing is what they actually wanted i think it'd look very, very different than how it currently looks. and the kindest interpretation is they've realised it's more profitable short-term to produce hysteria instead of healing.
compare in contrast to what i still think (despite modern news) was a great example of inclusivity characters with the lesbian main characters in buffy:
in 1999 no less, it showed a lesbian couple in bed and instead of a cheap sexiness grab, they're literally sitting up in bed reading & having a mundane conversation. no sexualisation of the lesbian relationship as something existing only for hetero male gratification, or out attacking heteros. just plain, believable real life characters living a boring normal part of their life. so yes i very much agree that the boring normality is a very powerful thing. surely ALOT more positive overall than aggressive hysteria.
In summary my take-aways are:
their MO is to use a scapegoat, they'd be attacking someone vulnerable, regardless of whom
not everyone pretending to be our friend actually wants to help us
hysteria is sadly apparently more profitable (short term) than healing
A positive note?
i really don't either, though something think how homosexuality has been hijacked in modern perception (by that 1000 years of fake christianity as you mentioned). in eg. parts of ancient societies, men could love men and women could love women, someone could be a third gender, and it wasn't even a thing to get upset about it, because it was just normal life. why do we suffer when they didn't even know they were supposed to be suffering?