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I have a rule that if my noise a problem for someone they will come and let me know and I will stop it immediately.
It hasn’t happened yet so I assume no one is inconvenienced.
Or maybe they just don't want to take the risk? https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2023/apr/29/five-people-killed-in-south-east-texas-shooting-cleveland
Haha I am so intimidating brr scary. In my country we haven’t reached this level of paranoia yet
I live in a safe area (not in the US), I know most of my neighbours at least somewhat but I wouldn't ever confront them directly because I don't know who's on the other side of the door and how they deal with confrontation. It only takes one asshole to put me in the hospital because I dared tell them they were being too loud, even if 99% of my neighbours are sweet and caring.
I go through my life trying to be quiet so as not to disturb others.
This is a loser way, it puts you at a huge disadvantage. Go loud ablaze with guns smoking.
So you're an asshole that also likes attention and confrontation
You sound like a shit neighbor then. Just be considerate of others.
It’s not my job to think constantly if my every minor single action can offend or inconvenience someone. Cmon that would be insane
If someone has a problem with my pyjama outdoors then they can tell me and I probably will consider it for a while like a second and then idk get a notification and forget probably if I am being honest. But I tried to take it into consideration your valuable opinion on my outfit. I really did try. It’s called living in a society, we need to care
I think you can find a middle ground between "I assume they'd come and politely discuss it" and "I think constantly whether my every single minor action can offend someone".
Honestly grow up
Your rule is based on ignorance then. Be kinder
I disagree. It’s the only sane way of thinking.
Are you saying you perform zero mental calculus to determine these sorts of things? You do not consider laws, social norms, or even morals? Where do you draw the line? If there is a literal community fruit tree at a park near your house, would you take all the fruits until people ask you to leave some for them? If you are driving home and you see a house with a beautiful garden, would you stop and steal some of the plants because the resident should tell you not to? Would you practice your guitar at 3am with an amp because, who knows, maybe your neighbors actually enjoy it or maybe they sleep with earplugs and since you had a great musical idea at 3am, you should "be bold" and "take what's yours" and they should tell you 3am is a stupid time to play guitar with an amp?
Did you also say you live in a homogeneous community of somewhat assholes and you think you're being bold by also being an asshole?
I would do all these things and probably wouldn’t even blink and forget about it few hours later.
In fact I have done such petty stuff innumerable amount of times and worse. People say you can’t sleep or something. Bullshit, the key is to wake up early.
Don’t even make me tell you about things I do when I was not sober. Though I don’t drink anymore cause it is unhealthy. I got lots of funny stories and insane tales. Good times.
Honestly only through internet I realized most people are built different. I don’t know if it is cultural difference or something else but you are all so alien to me. It’s fascinating. I for example was like that as far back as I can remember and even worse. Much worse. Nowadays I am an all cute goodie good. Age has softened me. I am really agreeable nowadays. I even make a point to be nice to people.
Should have seen me 15 years ago. You would probably be robbed out of your alcohol by me back then as It was my favourite trophy. I haven’t stolen a thing since 5 years, do you know how boring that can be? It’s almost insufferable.
But no I am in a good citizen timeline now. Queer, wholesome lady artist is my current occupation.
You might want to talk to a therapist because that is not a "cultural" difference.
But if you don't care that other people around you think you're an asshole even if they're not coming up to you and saying it, then there's nothing anyone can say.
Being kind isn't difficult, have a good day.