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I went with cut and suture and am very happy with my results. No nerve damage, barely any blood, healing sucked but that's expected. The cut isn't the deepest but I still have enough dexterity to do my signature trick
And yes, you're absolutely correct that the first thing anyone asks me about is sex. But that's nowhere near my top reasons for it, I have virtually no libido.
You chose the safe method. And got to practice Buddhism all at once =P! My gal's healed up after a while, as I said, I wonder if you'll have to redo it down the road. No harm, no foul though - I mean you do what you go to do to stay happy. I got a septum (among others, but a lot had to be taken out over time) and it's pretty much a 24/7 fidget spinner for me. I can't even imagine the joy of having a built in one would be. But that's my head, hahaha!
You look like you're living your best life though. I swear to god, when you play with fire you're just an overall happier person =P! But also these scenes typically have a certain vibe of love an compassion. One of my performer friends passed unfortunately a couple of years back. And they held a fire-ceremony for him. Was beautiful, but it really speaks levels on how loving these spaces are.
Also, I swear to god if you're unconventional in any way - all roads lead to sex. Tig Notaro did a joke about it a hundred years ago and as someone with no filter I always pray I don't crunch up anyone's toes too badly. But thankfully, I also try not to be an asshole in my day to day >.>!!!! GJ sis!
I try to exercise it but do want to resplit some of the scar tissue in the future. Not in any rush though since healing does majorly suck. Septum piercings rock, I love mine
It is truly sad when a sideshow performer passes. So many of us are estranged from our parents (usually because we're queer and have problematic parents) that we turn to rely on each other like family. I guess you have to have that innate level of love and trust when everything you do is so dangerous. I thank my safety after every single act, even though he's seen me do it a million times.
I think the thing that really broke me about him is that he was estranged from his family but he had this beautiful light. He was a lovely man, and he spread love where ever he went. I just don't think he was created for traditional living. He found someone he was setting up roots with though, and while I can't say for sure what the future held it sounded like he was working towards some stability. He was actually killed by a professional fuck face, who continued to be a fuck-face until he was put behind bars. The very essence of a person who does not enjoy living, and recklessly was taking down others with their apathy.
Aww man, at one point I had 21 holes in my head, if you catch my drift hahaha! I had to get some removed and had to take out the others after I got sick. Cause of the diagnostic machines and what not. But also, I personally get so tired of having to pop them in and out and in and out. My gal cut out a quarter of them, which was something else. Nothing says I love you like someone scalpelling your face. Now I am down to four, and really only care about the septum. Eh. One thing I can say about it is them muffergers over on Reddit hate them shiz @_@!!! But like, really it's one of the more enjoyable (actually enjoyable) piercings because it's endlessly fun to play with.
I once had a big brave fully tatted up boy tell me performances are always terror inducing going in because your nerves are pretty much out of your control and the only thing that can help you is practice and a good solid yawn prior to stepping out. I'm glad you've got a goodun' looking out for you though. And that you seem to have a solid head about the whole thing.
Big love and super big hugs sis! Yo~!
This far into the thread, if you're interested in what I do, here's my link