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Looking for two book recommendations (first SciFi and "48 rules of Power" with ethics) (lemmy.ml)
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Hello everyone!

I'm looking for two book recommendations:

  1. an "entry" book into SciFi. Something that is easy readable. I prefer sth. "positive" or utopian.
  2. A similar book like "48 rules of power" but without the Machiavellian touch and the religious touch of "How to win Friends and Influence People". Maybe there is something more "universal" available on how to connect to people on a respectful level.
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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

Hey, just wanted to dig in deeper about the second recommendation. The two books you mention are pop self-help books. You mentioned you wanted something about how to connect to people on a respectful level. Are your goals like learning psychological tips and tricks for navigating social situations (like knowing that people like hearing their name repeated to them, or that leaning in towards someone conveys you are engaged and listening, etc.)?

I'm not sure if I have a book recommendation, I just wanted to get clear on exactly what kind of book you wanted. I worry that pop self-help books may not be the best route to help you with your goal, whatever it is, but there might be other books that could help.

[–] en1gma@lemmy.ml 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I don't really know that myself. I just don't want typical books about ingratiation or manipulation, but advice on how to communicate better and more attentive, for example by paying more attention to not offering solutions directly, but listening first, not judging, also including facial expressions and gestures, respectfully but resolutely addressing other people's misbehavior, and so on.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 4 months ago

Interesting, let me know if you find a book on that, I would be interested too. It reminds me on research I was taught about gendered differences in communication.